You’re assuming there is an FOH person, they’re competent, and they have a compressor in their chain. Any or all of these may or may not be so.From the point of view of a FOH person - if you're going to be doing gigs on a regular basis where the sound in the audience is through a PA, a FOH person would MUCH prefer you NOT compress your signal before sending it to FOH. If what you have done compression wise doesn't work, it's very hard (OK, essentially impossible) to undo compression that is already applied to a signal.
FOH has a better chance of making you and your band sound good if you don't compress first. I know that may be an un-popular view around here, but if you want your band to sound good, it's best to work with the FOH person.
I have a compressor on my board; 95% of the time when I play, I’m either only using my amp, or the FOH doesn’t include a compressor (or it’s not used for bass). The other times I just turn mine off.
I don’t recall exact settings for attack and release but reasonably fast attack and long release. Some of what I play involves sustaining notes a while. Compression ratio finally settled on 4:1.