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I blame you all for this

#41
Lo-E said:
Household finances are a very interpersonal thing. My wife does, in fact, tell me when she buys a pair of shoes, and I tell her when I buy a bass - even when I know it's a (possibly irresponsible) impulse purchase. We live together. We share a bank account. Just how secret could I possibly keep a bass? She often comes to the shows, she sees me practicing at home and she has at least some inkling of the makes and models. Keeping things out in the open - at least in my house - causes a lot less aggravation than trying to keep bass secrets would. Besides; I have her take care of all the financial stuff anyway - if I was left to my own devices, I'd spend our retirement savings on basses tomorrow! :cool:

Everybody's situation is different. In some households, somebody's gig money might be an important part of the budget. In others, it's just play money. There are a lot of TB members and probably just as many different domestic financial arrangements.

I know you guys don't mean it this way, and maybe it's just a little harmless chest-thumping, but sometimes people talk about their wives - and women in general - like they're a different species. Really?
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Woah dude they are different, girls come from mars dude and bring cooties with them
 
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#44
Luckydog said:
If you are married, and have determined that your wife or husband need not know about major purchases (or purchases cleverly disguised as "oops, I accidentally bought this"), then you are truly unmarried. If you really want something bad enough, quit being a wuss...man-up or woman-up and tell your spouse BEFOREHAND, "look, I realize you don't want me to do this, but I really dont want to pass up this opportunity...what can I do for you to even things up?" If they go with it, then your acquisition will be SO much more satisfying. And you dont have to keep trying to convince yourself you are a sneak every time you look at your bass.

About the bass in hot car...maybe youve been lucky, but putting musical instruments in ovens is pretty foolish. Damage can happen, and Fenders are not magically immune regardless of the lucky streak you may have achieved.

Bass in an unattended car, particularly in a location where ppl know musicians park, is essentially saying, "steal me!" Happens so very often you would think we musicians would know better...seems like we often think its only going to happen to someone else, not me. I know so many who have lost expensive gear or pieces that they are very connected to emotionally, simply because of a poor decision in a risky area.
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Wow you've been here since 1999 :eek: That crazy man!
 
#45
BassFishingInAmerica said:
I have a sunburst 73 P bass. So, I bought a 2012 sunburst Jazz. My wife asked me why I bought another of the exact same bass I already had. I had to laugh.
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Funny, I got the same response from my wife last year, different years were involved but same 3TSB P and Jazz basses.

I started to explain but then her eyes just started to glaze over so...:yawn:
 
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#48
Kirk Bryant said:
Oh baloney, I call bs on the car thing. Been playing 50 yrs. and leaving gear in cars just as long. Leo designed em to be more or less indestructible. It's a tool. Worry about your Fodera, F bass, custom or whatever. I have left Fenders in cars in the summer where I'm sure the car was about 150 degrees out and in sub freezing temps down to 0 and below too. The WORST thing that's ever happened was finish crazing. Sure I wouldn't do it if I didn't have to but let's be honest. It's a tool. With the exception of the finish its just slightly more delicate than a drill or chop saw. Prettier yes more Fragile no. I'm sure I'll get flamed for this but there it is.
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Something made of wood with an inherently volatile finish is not the same as a power tool made of metal.

When I'd leave my 77 jazz in a hot car the bass would sweat out under the poly finish, creating a hazy white discoloration. If it was hot enough the finish would get tacky, and start picking up impressions. The bass would play ok but intonation would be an issue until it reached ambient temperature.

The milky film beneath the finish was temporary, although it did lead to later checking, flaking, and spalling, different from the areas where the finish was just smoothly worn away.

The impressions and textures have remained, at least until those spots on the finish finally wore away.

Which is all to say I disagree with your assertion.
 
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#49
Kirk Bryant said:
Oh baloney, I call bs on the car thing. Been playing 50 yrs. and leaving gear in cars just as long. Leo designed em to be more or less indestructible. It's a tool. Worry about your Fodera, F bass, custom or whatever. I have left Fenders in cars in the summer where I'm sure the car was about 150 degrees out and in sub freezing temps down to 0 and below too. The WORST thing that's ever happened was finish crazing. Sure I wouldn't do it if I didn't have to but let's be honest. It's a tool. With the exception of the finish its just slightly more delicate than a drill or chop saw. Prettier yes more Fragile no. I'm sure I'll get flamed for this but there it is.
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Something made of wood with an inherently volatile finish is not the same as a power tool made of metal.

When I'd leave my 77 jazz in a hot car the bass would sweat out under the poly finish, creating a hazy white discoloration. If it was hot enough the finish would get tacky, and start picking up impressions. The bass would play ok but intonation would be an issue until it reached ambient temperature.

The milky film beneath the finish was temporary, although it did lead to later checking, flaking, and spalling, different from the areas where the finish was just smoothly worn away.

The impressions and textures have remained, at least until those spots on the finish finally wore away.

Which is all to say I disagree with your assertion.
 
#51
NeckPickup said:
Gotta ask, why would you bid on something when you hoped to lose on the bidding?
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At the time I placed the bid (2 days before the auction needed) I was all for it, thinking that if I did get it at a low bid, it would be a great deal on exactly what I was looking for. Over those 2 days though I had time to think about bills, expenses on the kids, vacation, etc, and started to wonder if spending 340 at this moment was the best idea
 
#52
IN the old days gig money usually went back to whatever original band I was in trying to "make it" at the time. My current band is really the 1st one I've been in over 20 years that everything is split even and it's yours to keep.So a lot of gig $$$ over the past couple years has went to bills/kids/wife etc, so I dont feel too bad about getting the bass with it.

When I told my wife I bought it, she told me it was fine, but gave me the "you're an ass" look. She's very into music (I met her shortly after she followed Phish for 3 months) she loves the band, the guys, and the free wine she gets when we play wineries. But I can understand to some point where My bass addiction would drive someone crazy
 
#54
nilpla said:
Bass guitar ownership is a very personal thing. Wives should not interfere. It`s a lot like their shoes. Do they inform you of the last USD 200,- pair they bought ? No, they don`t.
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Hey. Some of us can play bass WHILE rocking a spectacular pair of patent leather pumps. ;) And I make it a point to discuss both shoe and bass/bass accoutrement purchases with my husband because we are in partnership, not competition.
 
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#55
Forty-Thirty said:
Hey. Some of us can play bass WHILE rocking a spectacular pair of patent leather pumps. ;) And I make it a point to discuss both shoe and bass/bass accoutrement purchases with my husband because we are in partnership, not competition.
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Maybe we should clarify -- It is not a competition between husband and wife; it is a competition between bassist husband and non-bassist wife.
 

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