I have recently joined a band. It's the kind of band which is basically run by one guy, who is the songwriter, singer, rhythm guitarist and manager. Literally within seconds, he had nicknamed me "Mr Bass". He uses this nickname frequently, presumably in the hope that it will catch on. When I turn up at the start of each practise session: "Aha! Mr Bass!" In his email address book I am Stylon "Mr Bass" Pilson. The poor drummer is similarly afflicted with a "Mr Beat" moniker that seems to be used by only one person. How should I deal with this? Direct confrontation runs the risk of causing offence, but the "war of attrition" method (ie refuse to adopt the nickname, in the hope that he tires of using it) does not guarantee success (cf the drummer's situation). Ideas? S.P.
Maybe he just can't remember names..? Many people have a mental blank on names and I know that I meet loads of people at Jazz gigs,workshops, jams etc. and can't remember their name, but instantly identify them as an Alto Sax or Piano player etc. etc.
No, it's definitely not that. I'm 100% certain that he is doing this because he thinks that nicknames are obligatory. His intentions are clearly good - he's trying to be friendly and welcoming - but the nickname that he has come up with is painfully poor. Perhaps I should just honour the good intention, and accept this title, agonising though it may be, with good grace. S.P.
Feel fortunate, I suppose. For all my project music, mine is "RickettNation", which the first part is my last name, the nation part comes from the nations of bass lines I use (Mostly, If not all bass parts) How ridiculous is that? Ultimately, he at least added "Mr." to it.
+1! Find an odious nickname for the offender and use it until he relents. I've played under "BabyBoy" (Back When I was the youngest member of the band), Papachub, (Because I'm I'm a bit lumpy, as well as it's properties of being an innuendo), and these days they call me Phalex (Not sure where that one came from, but oh well...) No one ever referred to me as a fish though.
Start calling him "Mr. Gitfiddle". He'll either back off or boot you out of the band. Either way, problem solved.
I was in the band in a show here a few years back. The name of the band was "Pubic Corner" and we all had strange names the people who had written the sketches had come up with. I didn't particularly like mine - I was "[my first name] the Penetrator"... I would have preferred being called "Mr Bass" anytime.
The sax player in my band calls me "McLovin" at every opportunity. He even introduces me to the audience that way, without using any part of my real name. I'm not really thrilled about it, but I guess he could have picked a worse nickname.
I think a litlle perspective is warranted here. There are far worse nicknames than "Mr. Bass." Be grateful.
I think that you're probably right. He's not the kind of guy who would dub me with an intentionally offensive nickname, but if being called "Mr Bass" is the worst of my problems, then I should consider myself lucky. S.P.
hmmm are you looking for a better nickname, like t-bone? ...couldn't help but think of costanza's similar problem on seinfield
I'd say this is your best option, or at least the option I'd take. You never know, the name might grow on you after a while.