Its always that one person in the audience. At that point I'm bummed out because I like to hear and feel my bass playing. Why did I spend all that money for equipment and wattage? The solution is, I act like I'm turning the gain down but actually I'm turning it up more..... "Hows that, OK", fine ... Volume is now louder and the audience doesnt know the difference. The real culprit is always the lead guitar player.
Maybe you should think about what is best for the band instead of "more me" just a thought.