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I'll Show Them! Gig Revenge

#22
I fully Understand what the OP is saying. Sometimes you just wanna show those who didn't think you were 'good enough' that you really were!

When I was a teenager playing hockey, and a certain coach didn't think I had what it took to make his travel team. When the team I landed on played against that coach's team in a tournament later in the season, you can be damn sure that I used that as extra motivation to show him what he missed.

But as others have said, you've got to temper that kind of emotion with your love for playing music. Don't let it be your primary motivation. Good luck with the gig!
 
#23
Thanks Guys!!! All sound advice, and I'll take it to heart. I'm not motivated by the d-bags of this world, I would be playing music no matter what. But it does feel good to finally get the ball rolling with a nice outfit. The band is called Tin Scribble. Ryan Looney on drums, from Bedford Drive, Todd Richardson on guitar, and the band leader is Michael Moore, not the film maker, but the mad scientist maestro behind this madness. Just google search Tin Scribble to check us out. The advertising for the gig is still in the works.
 
#30
superbassman2000 said:
another way to look at is You are glad that you didn't get the other gigs, because then you wouldn't have stumbled on this one
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Exactly. One of the bands I was trying out for last year (and one that guy got instead of me) was getting some good exposure, airplay on local radio, and whatever. They have since been in a rebuilding faze going through several singers in the past few months, and trying out new drummers. Another band that really screwed me over, had me learn 7 originals, and 5 cover songs, just to blow me off with some lousy excuse. Picked another bass player over me, then lasted a couple months before breaking up. So I'm glad I am where I am with this band.
 
#31
chump stain said:
Another band that really screwed me over, had me learn 7 originals, and 5 cover songs, just to blow me off with some lousy excuse. Picked another bass player over me...
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You are taking that sort of thing way too personally. They didn't "screw you over"; you just didn't make their cut, for whatever reason.

Focus on the music and forget the rest of it. It's a distraction.
 
#32
No they screwed me. I came to the audition with 5 songs ready, nailed them. And they had me learn another 7 songs, and come back the following week. Then when it was time for the next audition, they told me the band was breaking up. 3 weeks later they had a new bassist. So the way I see it, is I spent at least 2 weeks learning 12 songs for nothing. Time wasted. I could have been learning other material, for another band. I just wish they would have been honest, say something like "we want to check out some other players, before we make our decision". They're now broke up. So whatever. It is motivation a little I guess.
 
#34
chump stain said:
No they screwed me. I came to the audition with 5 songs ready, nailed them. And they had me learn another 7 songs, and come back the following week. Then when it was time for the next audition, they told me the band was breaking up. 3 weeks later they had a new bassist. So the way I see it, is I spent at least 2 weeks learning 12 songs for nothing. Time wasted. I could have been learning other material, for another band. I just wish they would have been honest, say something like "we want to check out some other players, before we make our decision". They're now broke up. So whatever. It is motivation a little I guess.
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It begs the question: why? What was it that was their gain at your expense? I'm not saying that they couldn't have treated you a bit better, but at the end of the day you just weren't the bassist they wanted. Probably you impressed them enough for them that they thought you might be the one, but while they were still keeping their options open someone else came along that they thought was a better fit. It happens all the time; welcome to the music biz. So you learned a few songs that you might not ever use. It's no big deal.

As to the breaking up and reforming without you, that's how CSN&Y got rid of Neil Young, isn't it? :D

But like I said, fuhgeddaboudit. It's a distraction.
 
#35
I'm not sure what the motive would have been. Could have played out like you said. I just feel like they weren't being honest with me, and at least owed me an honest answer since I did put time into their band. Maybe there was some in-fighting about who the bassist should be, hence the break-up/re-form? Who knows?

I learned from it, I now have a two song policy. I'll learn two songs for your audition. Then tell me if I should come back with more. If it's covers, that's different, but I'm not wasting anymore time on people's originals.

My problem is I'm passionate. When I go for something, I'm all in. So, I have to limit myself. If I'm spending that much time with something, the blow is even greater when the boom comes down. I went through a few more auditions after that, and I think I may have even gained some people's respect, when I told them pick two songs for me to learn. One band didn't like it, I told them I'm not doing more, unless you're having me back.
 

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