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Is it abuse?
- Thread starter MAJOR METAL
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Abuse? Maybe not.
Totally unnecessary and an easy way to get out of actually teaching Your kids the difference between right and wrong? Probably.
Totally unnecessary and an easy way to get out of actually teaching Your kids the difference between right and wrong? Probably.
I'd say that's accurate if you're talking about societal perceptions of it. But even if we fall fully into the rabbit hole and telling your kid that what they did is bad is societally considered emotional abuse, that still wouldn't make it abusive.
Not abuse. But I guarantee that we are from vastly different areas of the US and have very different beliefs.
I see nothing wrong with the soap in mouth or spanking. But I also support the death penalty.
I see nothing wrong with the soap in mouth or spanking. But I also support the death penalty.
No. It was done to me, but I won't do it to my kids. I hated it but I also learned what was what and how to act.
Fine line. You should not make a child ingest foreign chemicals. Abuse on the same level as physical or verbal abuse, probably not.
I think there are probably more effective ways to teach the lesson for the most part, but that one is far from abuse in my opinion.
I remember a teacher doing it to a student at school when I was a kid. I doubt that would go down well these days, he totally needed it though.
I remember a teacher doing it to a student at school when I was a kid. I doubt that would go down well these days, he totally needed it though.
It may not be the most effective method, but it's WAAAAAAY more effective than what a lot of kids today get (or don't get is a better way to put it.) too many parents let their kids walk all over them. Just the idea that kids might face consequences for acting up around some adults is surprising to some of those kids. They will try to find out whose buttons they can push and how far they can go with it.
The short, nonacademic answer: Society changes.
The long, academic answer: Culture is socially constructed, and with that, accepted behavioral norms go through transistions. Begin by reading some of the constructionist/antipositivists sociologists and anthropologists such as Max Weber. Then read some of the post-structuralists like Foucault.
More on topic, I had a feeling there would be some Christmas Story references in this thread, and TB, you didn't fail to deliver.
Some men are Baptists, others Catholics; my father was an Oldsmobile man.
The short, nonacademic answer: Society changes.
The long, academic answer: Culture is socially constructed, and with that, accepted behavioral norms go through transistions. Begin by reading some of the constructionist/antipositivists sociologists and anthropologists such as Max Weber. Then read some of the post-structuralists like Foucault.
More on topic, I had a feeling there would be some Christmas Story references in this thread, and TB, you didn't fail to deliver.
That presumes a belief in relativistic morality. Society may have differing opinions on specific acts, but I would argue that does not change their inherint morality. Even when the culture endorses slavery or pedophilia etc they're still wrong.
I got my mouth washed out with soap once. Never did whatever it is that I did wrong again. It definitely taught me.
Had it meted out to me. Did it teach me not to use foul language? Yeah. Was it abuse? No, I don't think so. Was it good parenting? Meh, not the best, but not the worst either, far from it.
I think I may have gotten soap mouthed in my youth. Did it teach me not to swear? Not at all, it only taught me not to swear if certain people were around.
