small public party...and 12 year olds were drinking? No adults at this public party? As you've displayed by posting your disgust here, I would encourage you to stand up in situations like that if there aren't adults around to take action.
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small public party...and 12 year olds were drinking? No adults at this public party? As you've displayed by posting your disgust here, I would encourage you to stand up in situations like that if there aren't adults around to take action.
First of all, if any of you aren't a parent yourself, you can just quit blaming parents only for these problems. You don't know what you are talking about.
It is also the parents job to provide for their kids with food, shelter, clothings, etc. Nowadays, this usually means both parents are working full-time, both driving an hour each way to get to these jobs. Have any of you tried to find a job that pays the bills where you can only have to work during the hours you kids are in school. Highly unlikely. What about during the summer? Daycares usually only take kids up to 12 years old. How are you supposed to monitor you kid all day while at work? Meantime, your kids are being bombarded by their friends and media, and you expect us to be able to counter against this during the few hours a day where we are home. And don't forget, we are supposed to also squeeze in working out and preparing healthy meals during these few hours also, to combat the obesity problem which causes all of our health insurance premiums to go up.
It is also the parents job to provide for their kids with food, shelter, clothings, etc. Nowadays, this usually means both parents are working full-time, both driving an hour each way to get to these jobs. Have any of you tried to find a job that pays the bills where you can only have to work during the hours you kids are in school. Highly unlikely. What about during the summer? Daycares usually only take kids up to 12 years old. How are you supposed to monitor you kid all day while at work? Meantime, your kids are being bombarded by their friends and media, and you expect us to be able to counter against this during the few hours a day where we are home. And don't forget, we are supposed to also squeeze in working out and preparing healthy meals during these few hours also, to combat the obesity problem which causes all of our health insurance premiums to go up.
"When I was a child, I thought like a child...."
The older you get, the more you see, the more you think, the more you experience life. If you concentrate on negatives, you see more of them and wonder how things got so bad (they've always been like this, you just didn't notice or were protected from it when you were a child). If you look for positives, you see more of them (they've always been there too, but you probably were too young to enjoy or take advantage of them).
Today there are a lot of different toys to play with, and many things that once were not spoken of, are now in public display. Yes, it's shocking to think that children make porn videos, but kids have always 'played doctor' or some such thing (you show me yours and I'll show you mine). Children have been drinking alcohol probably since a day or two after it was invented. etc etc etc.
The thing that separates the good from the bad is not the act of the sin (if you consider such things a sin) but the forgivness, love and direction that parents, friends, and community respond with.
The older you get, the more you see, the more you think, the more you experience life. If you concentrate on negatives, you see more of them and wonder how things got so bad (they've always been like this, you just didn't notice or were protected from it when you were a child). If you look for positives, you see more of them (they've always been there too, but you probably were too young to enjoy or take advantage of them).
Today there are a lot of different toys to play with, and many things that once were not spoken of, are now in public display. Yes, it's shocking to think that children make porn videos, but kids have always 'played doctor' or some such thing (you show me yours and I'll show you mine). Children have been drinking alcohol probably since a day or two after it was invented. etc etc etc.
The thing that separates the good from the bad is not the act of the sin (if you consider such things a sin) but the forgivness, love and direction that parents, friends, and community respond with.
+1000. I do everything I can to protect and teach my kids, My 2 boys who are older now got into trouble just like I did as a kid, and guess what...I was there trying to teach them everyday, the battle against media is not an easy one, shutting off radios because our society thinks it is ok for Brittney spears to sing about group sex is one big part of the problem. You old timers thought certain stars were cool, even say that they were the reason for you playing bass, well today most of those people kids look up to are talking about gangbangs and drinking cough syrup.......just look at that as your Beatles, only the hair past the ears is the least of our worries now!
The OP says he's from Slovenia. The legal concept of "in loco parentis" may not be recognized in Slovenia. Also, even if it is, the OP may not be of legal age in Slovenia. If he's not, then he's just another child among a group of children. Of course, legal obligations are a different subject from morality.
How do you do it? With every ounce of energy and every dollar you have, if that's what it takes.
Being a responsible parent involves setting a foundation for proper behavior starting from the moment your child can understand yes and no. We hope that by the time they of an age where they aren't being monitored every moment, they've learned a few things about right and wrong. I certainly agree that the battle against the influence of peers and media can be a tough one - and sometimes a losing one - but we've got to fight the battle. Giving up because it's really hard isn't an option. Kids will test us, and will get themselves into trouble. If we're lucky, they don't hurt themselves or others, and learn some lessons along the way.
I agree, the more things change, the more things stay the same.
Its funny when my father and I start telling stories of our stupid youthful behavior... change a few minor details in relation to our different generations, and I swear we coulda been friends doing the same stupid ****.
