If the conditions I wrote about aren't met, I won't get married. It's as simple as that. One reason the divorce rate is so high is that people get married too soon and for the wrong reasons.
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Marriage and significant other relationships
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If the conditions I wrote about aren't met, I won't get married. It's as simple as that. One reason the divorce rate is so high is that people get married too soon and for the wrong reasons.
Don't worry about me, I am very happy. That is also because I didn't make any poor compromises.
You cannot foresee the future. The first and I were, not seemed, were perfect for each other dating and the first 6 or 7 years of marriage. Then, and very quickly, she became the psycho b***** from hell. No way I could have seen that coming.
Yes, people can change for the worse. However, it is quite rare for a perfectly healthy person to turn into a psychopath. There were almost certainly warning signs beforehand. I speak from experience. The signs were there, but I ignored them. Fortunately, I wasn't married to her, and luckily, that was a long time ago.
Without conflict, life would be pretty boring. I am the logical one, who likes order and clean lines, she is the creative one, who likes clutter and chaos. Which one of us is right? Doesn't matter.I've heard it said that conflict is the price we pay for higher level of intimacy… in every sense
Depth is always on the other side of time and effort. *mic drop
I have to drop the cliche "Wait, bassists get married?" millennial/Gen Z meme.
When I read about people being married for decades it's quite alien to people in my generation who face a bizarre dating scene.
As I approach my 40's; I cant imagine being with someone for 40 years. I don't think ill even make it to 80 lol.
When I read about people being married for decades it's quite alien to people in my generation who face a bizarre dating scene.
As I approach my 40's; I cant imagine being with someone for 40 years. I don't think ill even make it to 80 lol.
We actually joked about that too.
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Sounds like mrs slo and I except I am the sloppy, creative one.
I didn't think I was going to live past 30 years old, and a lot of people I ran with didn't. But, here I am pushing 74 and loving live more than in my 20's.
Someone once told me to pick a fight with my girlfiend. He said that would tell me a lot about her and about myself. I did, not was hard, but we are still together.
Several friends didn't make it past 50, various illnesses, and one overdose. I never expected to make it past 40, and nearly 72 now. My wife and I have a friend who is 94 now, been married for 63 years. She still looks pretty young for her age, but has dementia, and he still loves her just as much as when they first married. Believe it or not, he still pops the occasional Viagra (or so he claims)!
Dangerous. Rookie move. I don't play games with my wife, she escalates and has a weapons closet that Stewie in "Family Guy" would be proud to call his own.
As Sean Connery said in "The Untouchables," - - "If they put one of ours in the hospital we put three of theirs in the morgue!"
"Does this dress make me look fat?"
The proper response ....
"I dunno, Does this baseball cap make my head look fat?"
LOL. Humor will buy your ass out of a lot of trouble.
The proper response ....
"I dunno, Does this baseball cap make my head look fat?"
LOL. Humor will buy your ass out of a lot of trouble.
If you are ready to leave this world, but you don't want to do it yourself, the correct response is "You betcha!"
Years later looking back, I feel grateful I got away from them.
At least 4 of them who dumped me for the next guy are now divorced and single. I am glad to get way from bad decision makers.
