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Married men live longer then single guys

#22
stratovani said:
My in-laws were the same way. Married for almost 60 years, were constantly at each other's throats until my Father-in-law died a couple of years ago. Basically they took their vows of "until death do we part" pretty seriously, because by rights they should have divorced years ago. Sixty years of being in an unhappy marriage? Nowadays we wouldn't tolerate it!
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So what does being married add extra, for a healthier live? Nothing!
 
#25
Well.....shortly before my ex and I seperated I had suicidal thoughts. Had we continued I really wonder how much more I could have taken from her.

It's almost 20 years since we divorced and I've been alone ever since. I'm almost 60 and while not exactly young I would rather die alone than to die of the torment she put me through.

I know there are a lot of good women out there and I do know a lot of married couples who are happy with each other. And I can see how it would be healthy if you're lucky enough to be in a good relationship. But I'm willing to risk it going solo.
 
#29
Personally, I don't care about this too much. I do not (personally) believe in marriage and I'd much rather prefer to live with a girlfriend than with a wife. No strings attached. I don't like to be bound at all. In fact, I do believe that anytime a couple is bored/ pissed off with each other, they should be mature enough to split and find love somewhere else. And not being married gives one the freedom to do so.

Besides, I wouldn't want to live past 50 or 60 if I'm no longer in good physical condition by that age. Even if I die at 50, I still have 20 years to make my life count and matter.

P.S. Yep, I'll say it clearly: I'm not romantic at all.
 
#30
fdeck said:
Correlation doesn't equal causality. It could be that people who are predisposed to live longer, are also more likely to get married -- possibly because they are more likely to be selected as spouses.
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And perhaps, a few of us (perhaps too few) willingly choose not to have children. There are just too many people, and me bringing yet another one to this world doesn't really help. I respect those who choose to reproduce, but not me. Besides, I just can't stand children to be honest.
 
#32
fdeck said:
Correlation doesn't equal causality. It could be that people who are predisposed to live longer, are also more likely to get married -- possibly because they are more likely to be selected as spouses.
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I brushed my teeth this morning and didn't have a wreck on the way to work. Millions of people who brushed their teeth this morning didn't have a wreck. Thus, my "study shows" that good dental hygiene leads to safer driving. Correlation/causality problems.


I'm in my second marriage. Does that mean a knocked a few years off with the divorce but now I am adding a few years with my current happy marriage?

It's crap "science". Sats can be twisted to "prove" anything.
 
#33
carlthegroover said:
And perhaps, a few of us (perhaps too few) willingly choose not to have children. There are just too many people, and me bringing yet another one to this world doesn't really help. I respect those who choose to reproduce, but not me. Besides, I just can't stand children to be honest.
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I totally respect your decision not to have children, but I think it is disingenuous for you to justify it with the old claptrap that there are too many people, and offensive to those of us with kids (I have a 7 year old daughter). The same selfish motive that drives some of to have kids, is the same one that drives some of us not to. You are not above the "free rider" problem!
 
#34
carlthegroover said:
Personally, I don't care about this too much. I do not (personally) believe in marriage and I'd much rather prefer to live with a girlfriend than with a wife. No strings attached. I don't like to be bound at all. In fact, I do believe that anytime a couple is bored/ pissed off with each other, they should be mature enough to split and find love somewhere else. And not being married gives one the freedom to do so.

Besides, I wouldn't want to live past 50 or 60 if I'm no longer in good physical condition by that age. Even if I die at 50, I still have 20 years to make my life count and matter.

P.S. Yep, I'll say it clearly: I'm not romantic at all.
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On that last part, trust me - you'll only feel like that until you get to your 49th or 59th birthday. At that time you will revise your definition of 'good physical condition'.:crying:
 
#38
king_biscuit said:
I totally respect your decision not to have children, but I think it is disingenuous for you to justify it with the old claptrap that there are too many people, and offensive to those of us with kids (I have a 7 year old daughter). The same selfish motive that drives some of to have kids, is the same one that drives some of us not to. You are not above the "free rider" problem!
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Oh yes, the "kids are important because I have them" theory.

This will of course end well.........,
 
#39
#40
Eric Perry said:
This is why I have none, and never will have any.
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I respect the decision wholeheartedly if you recognize that about yourself, recognize as a poor candidate for parenthood or whatever, but why all the disdain towards kids? Could you not stand yourself or your little friends growing up? ;)

What flipped that switch? Just something I truly want to get insight from....I have close friends with the same mindset and they cannot seem to give an answer with any more depth than "I dont like / cannot stand"... don't know why that bothers me...not passing judgement tho, just askin.
 

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