I looooove metal. Almost everything on my ipod is metal. But, that being said I've found that often, usually younger, metal heads are often the most closed minded. Often they will refuse to enjoy any other type of music or just automatically say something else sucks because it is not HM with all the full out attitude the comes with it.
When I was a teen I and my click of buds were full on heavy metal heads. I happened upon Faith No More and the RHCP. FNM became my favorite band. I still liked metal, but my metal friends couldn't tolerate the types of music I was getting into because it wasn't full on metal.
I noticed they would get into death metal bands that all sounded alike and nothing else would even be considered. They acted like it was some code they had to live by or something.
It seemed to me, like a lot of metal heads, they were into metal just because it was metal and part of their scene, not because it genuinly moved them. Even when metal seems to become more popular it still has an underground feel to it.
And that's sad, because there is a lot of good metal out their deserving of audulation, but there is a lot crap metal that is getting fans just by being metal.
I hear you. One of my good friends Kyle is your typical all-out metal head. Our friend Dave recently sold about 2/3'rds of his metal and got out of a lot of bands he used to listen to. Kyle nagged him for weeks about selling off his Judas Priest, King Diamond, Cannibal Corpse etc and kept telling him he couldn't understand why he's completely changing as a person. Me and Dave just kind of shake our head, I can realize Dave's tastes have changed but Kyle acts like he's let down that Dave is no longer all about metal. Dave has gotten into Classic rock and RHCP a lot recently.
I don't get it. I can put on some random underground metal album I have with generic blast beats and Kyle will think the drumming is wonderful, but if I play a Hella or Don Cab album he never says a word about the drumming (Which blows most metal drummers out of the water, clearly). Most metal seems so generic, in tone, composition, lyrical themes etc. That's one of the reasons I first got into Opeth is because they could have death metal sections followed by soft acoustic passages, all being intertwined by poetic lyrics about something genuine; their own feelings; rather than another zombie themed song.
I've always been down for going to local death metal and thrash shows, listen to a lot of good metal bands like Kreator, Electric Wizard, Decapitated, Dark Angel, Spiral Architect, Macabre etc, but at the same time I've been into groups / artists like Squarepusher, Six Organs Of Admittance, Anglagard, Yanni, Charles Mingus, Sun Ra, Al DiMeola, Nick Drake, Jethro Tull, Sigor Ros, Storm & Stress etc. I've never seen a good reason to limit myself to one branch of music like so many metal heads do, outside of a few token classic rock bands.