so... let me get this straight, in order to rebel from conformity, you decided to conform to the standards of a subculture that demands the utmost of conformity? How cliche is the act of seeking non-conformity through joining another social herd? I became a metalhead for the same reason, but I'm not going to fool myself into thinking I was really any different from all the kids I see listening to bring me the horizon, I don't think there was ever a point where any of this stuff WASN'T cliche.
when i was 16 and there was no internet, metal offered a different world from the grunge fad of the 90's... so there were only 3 of us who listened to Cannibal Corpse, Deicide and Monstrosity. i didn't become a non-conformist for the sake of non-conformity... i just really saw things differently from the general public - and i was able to relate to metal then, and i got along really well with the very few people who listened to it.
although i have to admit, being a 16 year old in the 90's and listening to an album that turned out to be Carcass' Heartwork was such a thrill. we were the only few who knew about it. kinda became a secret code for us kids

remembering it was really something since during that time, wed find ourselves listening to metal albums without a band label or tracklist - just an effing blank tape ... and we'd name the songs by imitating the intro riffs.
of course i grew up, and somewhere along the way, music stopped becoming an identity anchor.
it really is hard to explain everything completely over the internet ... and i really do not owe anyone an explanation, i just replied so you would know that i am not of those subculture kids.
i wonder if i got my point across? ... you know, it sucks that the "secret language" you knew before suddenly became a cliche. it doesnt bother me that much, but metal before was a lot more special, compared to what it is now - in my personal experience of course. you guys from the US and Europe might have had a far different experience.