Thanks Maurizio,
You're right about the trust, you know. I would have just had no problem ordering an uber-j from you 2 years ago. Now (in spite of the fact that for all intents and purposes you appear honest and genuine) I might hesitate to send money your way.
As for the refund and getting parts back, you've read the facebook chat. The guy is a brick wall. A few emails back he claimed to have spent $1750 on parts; today it's $3200. There is no way he will refund me or send me parts.
There is the smallest amount of hope that I will see the bass I asked for at some time. With that said, since I will only be consulted when he deems it appropriate, that amount of hope is dwindling. How I will ever go about trusting payment etc is a whole other ballgame.
As for lawyers, they are expensive. I could blow $1500 with a lawyer in one day, making it a zero sum game at best. As a matter of principal though, I guess could have a go