I loved the BFD at home and solo... but found it got lost in the mix live.
I had the same experience. I really dug the metallic quality the BFD could get but it seemed like no matter what I did, how I set it, I was always buried. Its been a long time since Ive had the pedal. I dont miss it thats for sure. I guess it would have a lot to do with the kind of music you play and what the other guitarist(s) are using for fuzz/dist in the band. Thats how I see it anyway. But I do remember trying for months to get the BFD to work in a band setting because I dug what it sounded like so much. Then it just came off.
Meanwhile, I have a TAFM on its way!!!