Measure the relief wit the bass tuned where you play it using the strings you use. Then you can start troubleshooting. Without the real data though, you're just randomly trying things. If the rod will not move when you attempt to tighten it, try this- loosen the nut to make sure it will move. If it does, then take the nut all the way off, put a VERY small amount of petroleum jelly in the threads of the nut. Make sure it's cleaned off and it's just a tiny amount inside the treads- just a very thin coating, you don't want globs (actually I'd use bicycle grease because I always have it around, but Vaseline is fine). Then carefully put the nut back on making sure the threads are engaged correctly and not stripping.
Now, here's the thing. One should never simply tighten a truss rod nut. Pre bend the neck and snug the nut up. That way the nut isn't going to compress the wood because you're not making that very small diameter of metal force the whole neck to move. If it still won't tighten then either the threads are bunged up at that part of the rod, or your rod has run out of threads and you'll need to resort to the washers.
But don't just start torquing nuts because the action is high. Find the real reason and address things in order. Make sure the nut is right. Set relief. Adjust saddle height to where you want it. Adjust intonation. If you can't get the action right and the relief is right, then look at the neck/body angle and shim as needed.
John
John