Regarding your bass, you need to take it in to a good tech who can get your action lower for you then. I just brought my 70's Ibanez Rickenbacker copy to my tech and he got the action nice and low the way I like it. It was about .5" off the fretboard at the 12th fret.
I always understood getting a good string height was the most important part of getting a setup. He can also tell you if it's the neck (truss rod) or if the bridge saddles need to be adjusted. Either way, you won't have to worry about messing it up.
Regarding my band, we've been referred to as Indie-Dance-Rock or 80's inspired rock with modern guitar tones. Not really sure myself, I can't say any other band I've heard sounds quite like us...thanks for checking us out though!