One of the many reasons texting is BS. If you want an answer do it live bro or hang it up.
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Once again no Response to Band Text.
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If band members were not communicating before the hiatus, I would not expect it to be any better after. At least the one guy has moved on. Unless the enthusiasm level of everyone else is high, best to move on yourself and find better people to play with.
Wait, wait - your responses are all wrong!
We're supposed to be raking OP over the coals to uncover how he's actually at fault for this situation. We need to figure out what REALLY happened.
Didn't anyone else get the Talkbass memo?
We're supposed to be raking OP over the coals to uncover how he's actually at fault for this situation. We need to figure out what REALLY happened.
Didn't anyone else get the Talkbass memo?
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If I got a penny for every song that never got recorded even if we meant to... Okay, it would not impact my financial situation, but there's many CD's worth of music over the years in my computer. You can't let that keep you hostage. If some of the songs can be considered 'yours', by all means take them and develop them with a new project, but don't waste time with a bunch of people that clearly are not on the same page as you. Each day you wait, is one day less you have with a great band that you haven't found yet.
Sign of the times... Funny, with so many forms of communication available now, people are so bad at communicating about anything. Not only with band members, but at our actual jobs. IMO, anyone who doesn't have the common courtesy to answer a YES or NO question within at least a day should be fired.
Very zen. I am working on being more like this myself. Now if only anyone in my entire region knew how to drive it would be much easier.
If the band is worth the effort, call a meeting (could even be a group text or group phone call) see about replacing the non-communicating member. Good luck.
I had a similar one recently. Replied to an add looking for a bassist. I sent over a (what I thought) was a comprehensive resume. Light hearted too not to go in all serious etc.
but I got nothing back at all…for about 2 months then got an email saying thanks but we’ve appointed someone. Then randomly about 2 months later I got a request from an unknown on FB and a message asking if I was still interested as the bassist they got in wasn’t working out. So I replied next day or so that I was. Sent over some tracks that me and some buddies were working on…no reply. Nothing. Not a word. Not even a thanks but no thanks. I’m not too pissed about the no response if I’d reached out but the fact he reached out then ignored me is annoying.
Im not bitter or immature but I hope their band falls apart
As it turns out the tracks I’m making with my buddies are coming out great and we’re gigging them now. So alls well and all that jazz.
doesn’t take a minute to respond!!
but I got nothing back at all…for about 2 months then got an email saying thanks but we’ve appointed someone. Then randomly about 2 months later I got a request from an unknown on FB and a message asking if I was still interested as the bassist they got in wasn’t working out. So I replied next day or so that I was. Sent over some tracks that me and some buddies were working on…no reply. Nothing. Not a word. Not even a thanks but no thanks. I’m not too pissed about the no response if I’d reached out but the fact he reached out then ignored me is annoying.
Im not bitter or immature but I hope their band falls apart
As it turns out the tracks I’m making with my buddies are coming out great and we’re gigging them now. So alls well and all that jazz.
doesn’t take a minute to respond!!
Yeah, I might mark that guy on my ignore list. Seems a bit flakey. Realizing we are all busy living and working and (those of us that do it on the side) making music but a professional courtesy "recieved your email, we'll be in touch if we choose you for an audition" would take less time than I put into replying to this post and it would go a long way.
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The parallels in bands and dating relationships never cease to astound me, in regards to similarity.
Lack of communication, lack of honesty, and the overall wishy-washy excuses for drifting apart. Unproductive relationships and bands are best dissolved early, they are literally not worth your time and energy.
Lack of communication, lack of honesty, and the overall wishy-washy excuses for drifting apart. Unproductive relationships and bands are best dissolved early, they are literally not worth your time and energy.
Group chats have a different dynamic that one-on-one conversations. Maybe there is a lot of side chat going on there and he muted the entire conversation. Maybe he's waiting to see what other people say first to see if he even needs to say anything. Who knows. I have 2 people in my band who rarely answer group chat questions but will quickly answer a 1 on 1 chat question.
Wait, wait - your responses are all wrong!
We're supposed to be raking OP over the coals to uncover how he's actually at fault for this situation. We need to figure out what REALLY happened.
Didn't anyone else get the Talkbass memo?
Actually I think the way the thread went down the tangent of discussing the declining courtesy standards hobby horse was pretty on brand for Talkbass.
Does the project continuity depend on that members presence? I mean, is he the author of all/most songs or is he somehow irreplaceable? Can you call him or talk to him outside the "official band channels"?
Not to hijack, but did they ask you for tracks the second time they contacted you?
Me, I don't offer anything unless someone absolutely insists, because whatever I offer might not be in their wheelhouse, and all I'd be doing is providing them a reason to exclude me.
Instead, I see it as a job opportunity where both parties determine fit, and those kind of things are best done in person. BTW, an in-person get-together is what I'm selling, and for now, that's ALL I'm selling.
Before they have a chance to ask me for anything else, I'll usually try to close them on a meeting. "When can we get together?".
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I've worked with people who do that with emails intended for reply-all. I'm not sure if that comes from some basic fear of going on public record or not, and to me it doesn't really matter.
Bands, like today's business environment, are collaborative deals; They require everyone being on the same page.
Which requires transparency in communications between all.
When put this way, I've been able to help sway some in the past to embrace a more open communications approach.
Then there are those who put the brakes on no matter what. They've usually been change-resistant, and have not worked well with others in the past. Ultimately, they've been a liability to both the collaborative and creative process.
So call him and ask him if he's okay, if everything in his life is okay. If this isn't normal behavior for him and he's not normally someone who ghosts away, and you've been working on music with this person for years, perhaps he's worth more as a person to you.
As Ted Lasso said, "Be curious, not judgemental."
Not always. I did a few gigs a couple years ago with a BL who wouldn't respond to anything. Phone, text, email, smoke signals, nothing. The other guys in the band said "yeah, he's like that."
