A very interesting thread. It is possible for powerful pickups which are too close to the strings to pull the strings into fret buzz. If this is happening, then lowering the pickups, perhaps quite a lot, WILL solve the problem. If you lower the pickups and the buzz does not stop, then it's something else. I do think that lots of people do have their pickups too high.
Not impossible, but unlikely at the distances that the OP is mentioning, especially when you consider how the field drops with the square of the distance.
I don't doubt a word of what the OP says, I' just not sure we found the reason for the effects he's reporting. A video would be very useful. Sometimes one person reports something, and another is able to see something else that the original person didn't notice, or we describe noises differently, or...
I thought I knew my car relatively well, years ago, and one day I thought there was something rattling and it felt like one of the middle sections of the exhaust pipe was loose. I was pretty sure. I went to my mechanic with it, had a listen... put it on the lift, looked at me, smiled... and a minute later it was fixed: the heat shield had come loose.
It's wise to keep an open mind.