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Parents on tour?
- Thread starter TheJetsFan4Eva
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When I owned my venue, we booked a band touring from SoCal named Last Day Off. They had a few underage members. One of their moms was their manager. Cool lady, good band. If your mom is willing to go along, enjoy the experience and give thanks your mom cares enough to find a way to support you rather than shoot you down. 
As a musician and a parent I think she is doing the right thing.
At least she is letting you go....
By the way...what type of venues are you playing?
I do not think you can play bars if you are under 21 ...unless laws differ there
At least she is letting you go....
By the way...what type of venues are you playing?
I do not think you can play bars if you are under 21 ...unless laws differ there
Hi.
Unbelievable responses in this thread, that I have to say first.
Some folks just don't have a clue, and have no inhibitions to say so anonymously.
I sincerely hope that if they practice as they preach, they're lucky enough not to land in jail.
OP, good to hear that You decided to take the least illegal route.
Without giving the prior written notice about Your being a minor (even with a guardian) to the venue security, can still result you not getting in. Depends on the state (/country here in EU) law and the venue policies.
We once had to have our guitarists legal guardian = dad in this case with us in one gig. In a place where I had worked in, and knew the manager personally no less.
No such thing as "an responsible adult" over here, legal guardian or no-go.
The venue can, and over here will, lose its booze licence immediately if the authorities who visit the establishments very frequently, find anyone under-age in a location where alcohol is served.
The venues/bars won't risk that for anything.
Even the temporary loss of the licence for the first time offender (1 week IIRC) can be enough to put them under in todays economy.
^This.
Generally speaking, if the legal guardian even as much as calls it kidnapping, and on top of that knows excactly where the band members are or wil be at a given moment, calling the heat on them isn't very difficult.
The minor would go free of course, providing that the child protection authorities don't get involved.
But his or god forbid, her bandmates can face quality time with the county judge.
Now where would the challenge in that be ?
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Regards
Sam
Unbelievable responses in this thread, that I have to say first.
Some folks just don't have a clue, and have no inhibitions to say so anonymously.
I sincerely hope that if they practice as they preach, they're lucky enough not to land in jail.
OP, good to hear that You decided to take the least illegal route.
Without giving the prior written notice about Your being a minor (even with a guardian) to the venue security, can still result you not getting in. Depends on the state (/country here in EU) law and the venue policies.
We once had to have our guitarists legal guardian = dad in this case with us in one gig. In a place where I had worked in, and knew the manager personally no less.
No such thing as "an responsible adult" over here, legal guardian or no-go.
The venue can, and over here will, lose its booze licence immediately if the authorities who visit the establishments very frequently, find anyone under-age in a location where alcohol is served.
The venues/bars won't risk that for anything.
Even the temporary loss of the licence for the first time offender (1 week IIRC) can be enough to put them under in todays economy.
^This.
Generally speaking, if the legal guardian even as much as calls it kidnapping, and on top of that knows excactly where the band members are or wil be at a given moment, calling the heat on them isn't very difficult.
The minor would go free of course, providing that the child protection authorities don't get involved.
But his or god forbid, her bandmates can face quality time with the county judge.
It would be fun to go through and guess the age of each responder on this post to see how close I get..
Now where would the challenge in that be ?
.Regards
Sam
Sounds like good solid advice from someone who can't spell "you" more than once.
I'm with mom on this one. You're still her responsibility. No one in the audience needs to know your mom is there, and if everything is on the up-and-up regarding what the others' plans are, she won't have to interfere with their activities.
i wouldn't let my 16yo do it. Esp since you've already let "friends" talk you into trying acid.
But I'm the kind of mom who could go along and try not to be a "mom" unless it was needed.
But I'm the kind of mom who could go along and try not to be a "mom" unless it was needed.
My parents didn't let me tour with bands until I was 18 and it was ONLY because I was selling merch for my cousin's band and he was going to watch over me.
I've seen bands of 16 and 17 year olds go on tour with their parents as chaperones and managers, no problems.
If mom tags along, you've got your own personal bank to shell out money if any problems occur, I'd take that deal for sure. Breaking down in some backwoods town with no money to fix your van is awful.
Parents worry about their kids, my mom freaked when I first told her I wanted to tour with my cousin. 2 years later and it's no big deal to tell them I'm heading out on tour for 2 weeks with a band I've never met to sell merch.
Show her first hand that you guys can handle a tour well and maybe she'll loosen up the next time you guys wanna hit the road for a few days, you never know.
Hope it works out for you dude.
I've seen bands of 16 and 17 year olds go on tour with their parents as chaperones and managers, no problems.
If mom tags along, you've got your own personal bank to shell out money if any problems occur, I'd take that deal for sure. Breaking down in some backwoods town with no money to fix your van is awful.
Parents worry about their kids, my mom freaked when I first told her I wanted to tour with my cousin. 2 years later and it's no big deal to tell them I'm heading out on tour for 2 weeks with a band I've never met to sell merch.
Show her first hand that you guys can handle a tour well and maybe she'll loosen up the next time you guys wanna hit the road for a few days, you never know.
Hope it works out for you dude.
At 16 you don't have many options. If you live with your parents they basically own you.
If my mom came with me on tour at 16 maybe I could have skipped that year in rehab..
Unless its a church tour smells like trouble..
If my mom came with me on tour at 16 maybe I could have skipped that year in rehab..
Unless its a church tour smells like trouble..
Maybe his band mates age on a different time scale than him. Or he ages at a slower rate than the rest of us. Possibly they managed to build that DeLorean, go to the future, and send their older versions back in time(and he missed that trip).
It seems like a "gotcha" moment, but I am really just poking a bit of harmless fun that I couldn't resist. I'll grant the OP the benefit, for the moment, and let him tell us what the deal is.
Maybe they are different bands. I suppose even 16 year olds can have multiple projects, time allowing.
Be happy your mom wants to come. You'll probably get to eat well and sleep in a nice hotel. The rest of the band won't have that luxury, I expect.
Touring North Carolina from Georgia? Good luck with that. A lot of really good local bands can't make gas money around here. If your band of teenagers can make enough money to buy fast food you will be my new hero.
Maybe your Mom is actually utilizing this as a chance to live a personal dream of hers, living vicariously through you. It will seem awkward, but its a once-in-a-lifettime oppurtunity. If you and your bandmates get along well with Mom, do it.
Keep in mind, my advice comes from the point of view of someone who lost his mom less than a year ago. I've done 7 tours, and can't tell you what it would have meant to have her along on one of them.
Thanks - I didn't want to sound too sad or morbid or anyything like that, but it had just occured to me after reading the whole thread "hey... Mom probably would have really gotten a kick out of a little touring!"
Do it while you can, man!
Do it while you can, man!
