Two comments to OP (apologies if this has been said already)
1) Never in a wedding band hey?
2) You are the stage
I do not have the level of self discipline requisite for playing in a wedding band. Kudos to those who do!
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Two comments to OP (apologies if this has been said already)
1) Never in a wedding band hey?
2) You are the stage
Not long ago I was hired for a BIG BUCK wedding. For a show like this I would always do a site inspection. I didn't cause the lead singer told me we had worked this room before without problem, and to bring the full lighting and sound system.
I got to the convention center, and was sent a direction I had never been before. I found the room manager, and was shown 'the stage'. The lack of stage. The VERY SMALL lack of stage. They had cordonned off an area between tables that was about 8' square!! and floor level. I tried to explain that it was a five piece band, with a 5 ton truck full of equipment (lighting trusses, 4x double 18" subwoofers, 32 channel board.....). Deaf Ears. This was our area, and there was no two ways about it. I called the wedding planner that had booked us. There was NO WAY to back out of the gig.
I called our sound man and cancelled him, and set up two of our mid-hi cabinets (of six) on top of the guitar and bass amps (no monitors, two lights), and we packed in around the drums (muting every cymbal cause someone was leaning against it) Nobody but the dance floor could hear us, and that was fine.
We got paid, and rebooked by the same wedding planner.
Or, from a perspective of gigging for part or all of your living.I do want to point out that most people posting to this thread are coming from the perspective of the BASS PLAYER, who usually stands courageously at the back of the stage, away from the frontline of drunk a-holes contended with by singers, some of whom are attractive women.
Just adding perspective...
I do want to point out that most people posting to this thread are coming from the perspective of the BASS PLAYER, who usually stands courageously at the back of the stage, away from the frontline of drunk a-holes contended with by singers, some of whom are attractive women.
Just adding perspective...
I do not have the level of self discipline requisite for playing in a wedding band. Kudos to those who do!
Or "Police Line Do Not Cross" which would be appropriate if you did a bunch of their songs.



I do want to point out that most people posting to this thread are coming from the perspective of the BASS PLAYER, who usually stands courageously at the back of the stage, away from the frontline of drunk a-holes contended with by singers, some of whom are attractive women.
Just adding perspective...
Do it! Except now you have to learn some Police songs...LOL!I have some "POLICE LINE DO NOT CROSS" tape! I have GOT to do this....
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Prefer elevated stages but will do the floor if required.
When the club tells me that I just politely let them know that it takes an hour to set up and instead of play from say 9-12:00, we'll be playing from whenever we finish setting up until 12:00. We do set up as quickly as possible, but we don't try to set any records. I've never had a club complain or not ask us back.
This is a huge pile of responses, but you know where everybody is coming from? Want a stage every night, book it yourself. Problem solved. Clean up, aisle primadonna without the chops/balls to play a wedding gig.
What about the attractive men?
I've never been at the back playing bass, always at the front. Have I been doing it wrong?
Or, from a perspective of gigging for part or all of your living.
When you’re doing it for a living you just set up, play and take the money and run.
I've never been without a stage... Would like to do one, just for the experience...
primadonna without the chops/balls to play a wedding gig.