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Sick of being a quitter

#42
jasper383 said:
It is also very hard starting something, because it is no fun sucking at something. So, we quit. But, in order to excel, one must push through. That's a healthy skill in and of itself.
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Well said. I realized just that very recently, and it took me nearly 3 decades to change my mindset.

bass_study said:
I believe that lack of self discipline is because your self esteem is too high.
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Some might say this is a fallacy, that a self-esteem too high doesn't exist. The OP's problem may simply stem from low patience. He could also be smarter than average and get bored quickly whn the new activity is no longer stimulating.

DaDrew2112 said:
These responses are very helpful. Yesterday I got off my rump and went to Brazilian Jui Jitsu class for the first time in two years. Although it was tough walking in knowing that I had just tucked tail and run before, it felt really good training on the mats. Since I already am a blue belt, my next goal is going to be getting a stripe. I also have to give it some time as I'm completely gassed really quickly. I'm also going to be shooting for first degree in Muay Thai.
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One step at a time, brother. Maybe a reason why you quit is because you engage in too many new things at once. I shold know as I relate to this.
 
#43
carlthegroover said:
Some might say this is a fallacy, that a self-esteem too high doesn't exist. The OP's problem may simply stem from low patience. He could also be smarter than average and get bored quickly whn the new activity is no longer stimulating
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I can be wrong and I guess i am younger than you I think from my response. But just from my shallow experience I try to explain a little bit more here...

I believe OP is a very smart and talented guy to be able to learn so many things. But I believe there is a underlying issues beneath the problem of lack of patience. Most people are generally lack of patience because if you have to excel in one thing, you have to struggle and see obstacle and' plateau' as well as some weaknesses of urself. In order have to grasp the essence of a particular discipline, you have to completely dive into the discipline and let it be a part of you. That's what is the most stimulating aspect of learning a thing.

If OP just want to get the sense of stimulation from learning thIng, he will not find it a problem and being sick of it.

With such influx of information that we all can access, it is very easy to learn many things instead of sick on one thing.

It's not because we have to fully put ourself down to learn something, but it is because we love something so much that we are willing to put down ourselves to learn most out of it from that subject.
 
#44
DaDrew2112 said:
...i probably have ADD but isn't that just an excuse like everything else?
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No.

I suggest you see your Doc and a mental health professional who can rule out what you don't have and go from there. There's no downside to obtaining more information.

Seems like you're really down on yourself for your situation. There are some things you just can't think you're way out of.:atoz:

Good luck.
 
#45
jarrydee said:
I think that ADHD is bull crap, what did people 40 years ago do? They learned to control themselves!
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Years ago, people who had schizophrenia were thought to be possessed by evil spirits. Just because a new mental diagnosis comes about doesn't mean that it's invalid. The DSM is an evolving text. As has been stated, AHDH does exist, but it is overdiagnosed. Your son may have been misdiagnosed, but basing your conclusions from one case does not disconfirm the existence of a mental issue in the population.
 
#46
agent77 said:
Just remember: A jack of all trades is a master of none.
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...but being a polymath is often a good thing. :hiding:

Honestly, I can't offer any advice to the OP other than the usual and typical Anthony Robbins and Stephen Covey pop psychology, self-help stuff. I do have a friend who seems to have the inability to finish any major project. I always found it a bit frustrating, because she's an otherwise intelligent, able, and hardworking individual. She just can't seem to see any complex and longterm personal project to the end. For instance, she dropped out of cosmotology school a few weeks before graduating for no real good reason.

I agree with the posters who suggest that you should first seek professional help to make sure there aren't any neuro-psychological issues affecting you. Then, unrepresented put forth a really good strategy for accomplishing your goals. While YMMV, from my experience, once you start accomplishing things in life, accomplishing more things in life becomes infinitely easier.
 
#47
Define your core values. Set up "SMART" goals (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Timely). Find motivation and conviction. Find people with interests in the same areas of you and become "accountability buddies."


http://artofmanliness.com/2009/05/31/30-days-to-a-better-man-day-1-define-your-core-values/

I visit AoM all the time, and I find that learning some of the new skills posted and reading about great leaders and men really help you keep your edge and motivation. I'm headed towards the end of the 30 day project, and I feel much better about myself as a man and person than I did a month ago.

Here's the "list" off all 30 days worth the activities.
 
#49
Ah man, I just hit up the NHL thread. I've been away for a while because losing Suter hurt, and I've been dealing with a rough summer. I'm probably going to open up a thread for opinions on my newest issue: hurting my back at work.
 
#51
I have add or ADHD or whatever you want to call it.

I have trouble reading.I can read and have always performed extremely well on comprehension tests. My problem is I lose focus ,just today I realized I was reading the paragraphs in a manual from the bottom up. Had to stop and refocus...

I have learned to break larger goals into smaller goals in consecutive order in order to sucessfully accomplish the original goal.

Trying to smack down large goals is a bad idea , break it down into smaller managable pieces .

IE ,I read the rest of that manual one paragraph at a time ,on purpose. Otherwise it seemed a daunting unmanageable task.
 
#52
And +1 on no meds, I took them for years. They are not good for you. They killed my emotions , long term use has NOT been studied because they haven't been around long enough, I'm sure you could research this etc...

My doc put me on a new med last year and I had such a bad mental reaction i thought I was ruined forever . I developed unrelenting anxiety so bad I was nearly disabled ... took almost three months to come down ...

I am not taking anything anymore and am done with being the monkey ...
 

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