Whose fault is that? If you roll into a club with a house system and engineer, with no one along to advise him as to what you want, and he's never heard of you, much less knows your music, what do you expect? He's going to throw what works best for him most of the time at your sound.
The last gig I did I was part of an opening act for some country artists. The gig was semi unplugged with no amps on stage. I was running out of a Radial jdi. I asked the monitor guy if I could have a little more bass in my wedge. ( an eaw 212 with horn) The first response I got was "Hey....those aren't double 18's ya know!" I immediately know what kind of toolbag I'm dealing with. I just shut up and say......"thats fine." He then tells our guitar player how he should ditch his current setup of pedals and go with a floorpod. I know we're just the opener but give me a frickin break. We're not some young inexperienced band. I'm trying to say that my idea of a decent sound guy is someone who's trying to work WITH someone.....not dictating his/her idea. What usually happens with this situation is you get through the gig........you hope the foh guys have you dialed and move on.
I've also had similar gigs that were a pleasure. No attitude, a willing ear, smiles all around. NOBODY needs to be ugly. I'm just sayin by virtue of the power a sound guy has, it sure would be nice if it was more collaberative. If the performer is an ass..........then he/she just sealed their own fate. If the sound guy is an ass...........oh well.

