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#23
Blisshead said:
I say, "What the (sounds like duck) part of 'no thank you' don't you get anyway?"
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:D

i'm not afraid to offend someone in this situation .
no need to try to come up with bogus 'polite' reasons why you don't want anything to eat .
i just tell them " no thank you " . that should be enough for any rational person , imo...
{ if they persist , refer to Blisshead's suggestion }
 
#24
My wife only likes a few kinds of foods, and what usually works for her is to say that she's allergic to most of the things in the meal they're offering. People usually don't want to kill you.
 
#28
I agree with all those who say "No thank you", is enough. If they don't get it, then they're offending you. I wouldn't be too concerned about offending them. You might want to add, "I appreciate the offer, but no thank you."

I also find that people respond to your level of commitment. I don't drink and haven't for many, many years. I always hear other people who don't drink talking about people pushing drinks on them, insisting they have a drink. I don't think it's ever hapened to me. I simply say "No thanks", and mean it, and that's usually enough. If they push at all I say "I don't drink" and that's the end of the story. Although I'm not harsh or rude, I think they can sense that it's pointless to harass me - I ain't doing it. I believe the same may be true for the food thing.

Just want to add that I think I'd say, "Pease don't make me uncomfortable, I really don't feel like eating anything" if they persisted.

I'd write dear abbey on this one - she knows all about this kinda stuff. :)
 
#29
Sheep Man said:
Depending on the situation and who I'm with, I do different things.
If it's with my dad's friends, then I'll politely eat a little, usually meaning what's already on my plate. Sometimes I have to force myself not to cringe or make a "yucky" face, and I'll have to wash it down with some water, but I just keep a smile on my face and hope my dad keeps talking so the attention isn't on my reaction to the food. :p

If it's with my friends and their family, they usually know what I don't like, and if they don't, I just let them know and it's usually ok. Occasionally someone, usually the father, will tell me that, "It's good for you, at least have a little bit." So, again, I politely put some on my plate and let it pass through my mouth into my stomach with minimal tongue contact.

If it's with complete strangers, such as a formal event or other meal-time event that I've signed up for, I push what I don't like to the side when I've finished everything else. If I don't like the entire dish, I'll take a bite or two then leave the rest alone.
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You're Asian too, right?

I don't know if you get the whole 'hospitality overload' my dad and father's relatives project, I've always figured it was a cultural thing. You can say no- but they're still piling stuff on your plate. Don't even get me started on the whole creepy stinky Asian food thing... :spit: If I know my dad is cooking ox tails or mongo or some other unnaturally smelly- more than likely dangerous- "food," I just won't go visit my folks that day. Don't get me wrong- I love pancit and adobo, but the rest of that stuff... ick
 

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