+1. Thank goodness I'm in the position where the music means more to me than the money for a typical jazz gig, unfortunately the drummer for me is often the deciding factor of whether I take the gig or not. I have been in this position many times with Rushing and dragging. in the end I don't think it's a battle that you can win. Drums just have much more volume and power than a bass does. In the case of dragging, it's just not good. Nothing sounds good, fighting it or going with it. With rushing, I think fighting it might sound worse than going with it. Going with it can be perceived as high-energy. Fighting it just sounds like a band that's not locked, however if you do want to fight it, try playing the same note on beats 1 and 2 and the same notes on beat 3 and 4, or just play in two. You can tell the drummer when you hear me playing in two that means I think it's RushingGood discussion of a topic that will never be resolved. I'll add two things:
1) When I play with a drummer who rushes, I simplify. Busy is the enemy in a situation like that. Simple lines with simple time, and clarity above all. It doesn't fix it, but it mitigates it enough to get through the gig.
2) These days I never ask how much a gig pays. Instead, I ask, "Who's the drummer?" If it's a good drummer or no drummer and I like the person calling's playing, chances are I'll take the gig.