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sticky situation - 2 guys, 1 keyboard

Discussion in 'Band Management [BG]' started by Burt35, Mar 28, 2014.

  1. Burt35


    Dec 9, 2013
    I've gotten myself into a bit of a predicament. As I am in the process of starting my own band, I recently reached out to a monster keyboard player (I'll call him "Herbie") whom I've played with before in the past, and got along with quite well on a personal level. Based on his current music projects and day job, I didn't expect him to accept the gig, but felt I had to put it out there, as he is such a truly special player.

    Later that same day, I did a "cold call" on another great keyboardist ("Joe") whom I've never worked with, and don't know personally, but whom I've admired as a player for years, and I knew he was looking for a gig. A guy with mega industry experience, and formerly in a hugely popular band. Well, he got back to me almost right away and said he found my vision for the band very interesting. And while he expressed extreme interest and said I could pencil him in, he fell short of a full commitment, and said he'd touch base with me later over the weekend.

    Well, lo and behold, several days later, I finally heard back from Herbie, and to my astonishment, he was totally gung ho to join my band. Unsolicitedly, he offered to write charts and organize things. Massive enthusiasm, everything you could want.

    Meanwhile, the weekend came and went, and Joe still hasn't gotten back to me. Fortunately, Herbie is pretty chill and is not the kind of guy who requires immediate email responses, so, while I sort this out, I have held off on telling him how excited I am that he accepted my offer.

    Right now, I am leaning strongly toward Herbie, and wish I hadn't contacted Joe. :meh:

    Obviously, this situation was my own doing, but what should I tell Joe? I don't want to burn any bridges.

    (Just to clarify, he's a great player, but he may not work out anyway, as we don't know each other, and may not have the right chemistry.)

    Thanks guys!

  2. Go with Herbie, and just contact Joe today, thank him and tell him the position has been filled.
  3. lfmn16


    Sep 21, 2011
    charles town, wv
    I'm not sure what the dilemma is. Tell Joe one of your long time friends expressed interest in the project and you decided to go with him. You appreciate his consideration and you hope to work with him in the future. Better to tell him BEFORE he accepts.
  4. +1. Yep. And contact Joe right away - today.
  5. ejmy


    Nov 30, 2008
    Take them both, 2 keyboard players in a band is great. As long as they want to work together.
  6. ejmy took the words right out of my fingers. If these two guys can get along with each other, they could be the silver bullet that sets your band apart from the competition.
  7. Burt35


    Dec 9, 2013

    Joe just got back to me......and has accepted. Now what??? :help:
  8. Passinwind

    Passinwind I Know Nothing Supporting Member Commercial User

    Dec 3, 2003
    Columbia River Gorge, WA.
    Owner/Designer &Toaster Tech Passinwind Electronics
    This is Talkbass. Fire them both and ragequit yourself to boot. ;)
  9. deepestend

    deepestend Supporting Member Commercial User

    Feb 21, 2003
    Brooklyn via Austin and NOLA
    Guitar/Bass Builder and Social Media at Sadowsky
    You need to take control of the situation. Just man up and tell Joe what happened and leave it on good terms. Don't let it all get any further out of control.
  10. mellowinman

    mellowinman Free Man

    Oct 19, 2011
    How is this even a question?

    Sorry Joe; Herbie accepted first.


    Herbie's in; you're out.

    Be direct and honest with people.

    NOT a sticky situation at all.
  11. Winfred


    Oct 21, 2011
    lol! Beat me to it.
  12. Dave W

    Dave W Supporting Member

    Mar 1, 2007
    White Plains
    Why did you let him accept when you already had Herbie committed?
  13. Helaskold

    Helaskold 100% Mediocre

    Jul 22, 2012
    Austin, TX
    "Well, Herbie already committed. Sorry, Joe. Thanks for your time and good luck!"

  14. Hmm, yeah you should have contacted Joe right away and told him that the job has been filled. Oh well, "should of" and "could of" isn't going to help now. If payroll allows, and the two keyboardist can work together - maybe take both of them. Otherwise, you need to tell Joe 'TODAY" that the position has been filled, just be honest with Joe and tell him exactly what happened and be very polite - but keep it short too.
  15. +1. Yep, and do it right now too, as in today.
  16. mellowinman

    mellowinman Free Man

    Oct 19, 2011
    Well, if he had Herbie committed, then technically, the job is still open for Joe. Let's hope Joe is slightly more sane than Herbie, and that Herbie is getting the treatment he needs, so that one day, he can become a functioning member of society again.

    In the meantime, I want to kow what they spilled all over the keyboard that made it so sticky. A good solution of mild dish soap and water, used sparingly, can often clean off honey, sugar, maple syrup, and the like but if there is something petroleum-based, like tar, the OP will need a chemical cleaner, and they will have to be very careful not to damage the keyboard.

    If Herbie's keyboard is the one that got all sticky, I would think the problem sort of solved itself. If Joe's keyboard is the one that got all sticky, why couldn't he just borrow Herbie's, until Herbie gets out of the institution?
  17. mellowinman

    mellowinman Free Man

    Oct 19, 2011
    This reminds me, wasn't there a Brady Bunch episode entitled "2 Guys, One Prom Date with Marsha?" We all know how that one turned out. Marsha tried to set the less good-looking guy up with Jan, but he didn't appreciate all that hostility, so he ended up settling for Mrs. Brady. Man, was THAT embarrassing for us kids watching at home!
  18. FretNoMore

    FretNoMore * Cooking with GAS *

    Jan 25, 2002
    The frozen north
    I don't see what's sticky - call they guy you don't want and talk to him, explain how this happened and say I'm sorry and I apologize, hope to work with you another time. But do it ASAP. If you haven't already, get on the phone now.
  19. Yep. OP it's important that you do it ASAP!!!
  20. ejmy


    Nov 30, 2008
    You know what Stealth ? We had it all figured out but apparently are way was too easy LOL