Suicide and those quietly considering it

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by i_got_a_mohawk, May 21, 2012.

  1. If you feel you are stuck in such a dark place and you can't get out or you are putting on a happy face while miserable inside, please, talk to someone. Let it out and get help.

    You'd never know the pain it brings to the family and friends around you, especially when they would help if they knew.

    Again, just talk to someone, please.
  2. *Yesterday, someone I knew from my hometown ended his own life, back in February an old school friend also took his life, the place only has a population of about 8,000.

    Both guys were always outwardly happy and upbeat, but clearly something wasn't right deep down.

    So if you are feeling that way, be honest, don't cover it up and talk to someone.
  3. Man - I am sorry for your losses. Be sure to heed your own advice, man!

  4. Thanks bud, and I do! I've been down that path (never getting anywhere near that far I don't think), and I know how much talking to people can help.

    Heck, I just hope if anyone on the boards is having any thoughts along those lines, that they speak to someone or get help.

    It's just that it always seems to be someone that you'd have never expected :-\
  5. Sorry for what happened to you, OP. I haven't had any particularly close person go down this path, but someone I had an acquaintance with did this and it still caused me considerable anguish.

    IMO, a lot of people need to change their outlook on suicide and suicidal people. Out in the 'west', maybe there's a good degree of awareness, understanding and sympathy for the mental state of people who take their lives, but, sad to say, it isn't the same everywhere.

    Here, I've seen an incredible number of people putting a generic 'coward' or 'ignorant' label on people who committed suicide or are contemplating it :(
  6. Rocker949


    Apr 20, 2005
    Great post.
  7. MakiSupaStar

    MakiSupaStar The Lowdown Diggler

    Apr 12, 2006
    Huntington Beach, CA
    Yep. Well put mohawk.
  8. absolutely...good advice.

    i have to admit i was very worried at the title of your thread because i thought you might be talking about, you'd be missed around here

    anyway, carry on
  9. I had two friends commit suicide and my sister's college room mate attempt it in a week last year. I concur wholeheartedly.
  10. MIJ-VI

    MIJ-VI Inactive Supporting Member

    Jan 12, 2009
    Don't let life's bastards win. You're better than they are. You just need more time & learning to realize it.

    Help a friend – Befrienders Worldwide: via @addthis
    Suicide Hotline (General) – 1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433)

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  11. The worrying thing is, neither of the guys I knew showed any of those warning signs.

    One of them even had planned stuff for next week.

    However, thanks for the links! Great to point people towards more specific mediums of help! :bassist:

    Sadly there is still a lot of labelling involved, I think much of it (at least from closer family and friends) is to do with misplaced anger (from not being able to help) and hurt from the people who miss them.

    Don't worry about me, I plan on being a PITA here for many many years to come :D

    Man, sorry to hear that, especially in such a tight timeframe. Were the suicides related at all? **** :(
  12. mpdd

    mpdd neoconceptualist

    Mar 24, 2010
    one of my family members committed suicide 18 years ago, i'm still not all that comfortable talking about it or thinking about it, unfortunately i've had to think about it more recently, because there have been several od/suicides among artists i know in LA this spring, my observations are as follows
    drugs and alcohol make things worse, success doesn't matter, your friends and/or family want you around, talk to somebody
  13. No. My closest friend had a rare seizure disorder which caused extreme mood swings based on his brain electrically misfiring. He would have huge ups and downs. He got down, badly, and was by himself, and took his life.

    Alex was huge into making his VW jetta faster, so one or our mutual friends is on a mission to make his VW 600bhp in his honor, right now.
  14. NML1986


    Feb 25, 2012
    Lincoln UK
    I have a friend who has bipolar syndrome, I haven't seen him in a long time though.
    He use to self harm, think he is much better now, since the last time I saw him he's got married and is much happier these days.

    I haven't had anyone close commit suicide, though I knew of a few young lads (both under 20) in the local music scene kill themselves, I don't know the reasons, one was in a band that was about to go somewhere too, very sad.

    And to OP, I'm sorry to hear that. :(
  15. MIJ-VI

    MIJ-VI Inactive Supporting Member

    Jan 12, 2009
  16. a local crisis line saved me a few times in the middle of the night when things were really, really bad. Suicide is serious, don't ignore or discredit people talking about it. Lost a couple of acquaintances to it myself and it SUCKS.
  17. powderfinger


    Feb 24, 2009
    Sad thing is... of all the people Ive never known to threaten suicide, none of them actually ever did it... I think threats of suicide are simply a cry for help. The only people Ive known to have committed suicide just did it (ie my aunt, a classmate).

    I read a study once that true suicidal people almost get tunnel vision, and are zoned in on 1 task and 1 talk alone... taking their life. They dont waste time making threats.

    I know pain, but it makes me wonder what one must feel like to actually take their life. It's truly sad.
  18. Great post. +1
  19. MIJ-VI

    MIJ-VI Inactive Supporting Member

    Jan 12, 2009
    No matter how long a night may seem, dawn will come.
  20. Broadstbully22


    Dec 5, 2011
    I have recently had a friend of mine that was in Iraq with me kill himself. To many soilders are doing it, I won't lie and say that the first 6 months back were not extremely hard but I never got to that point, but alot do. I won't say that it's right, but I understand. PTSD is a hell of a thing.
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