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the silence game
- Thread starter Indiana Mike
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That passive-aggressive crap doesn't fly with me.
Had a few exes like that and I called them out on it. They never changed and I ended up breaking up with them.
Honestly, it's not only stupid but doesn't prove anything other than the person giving the silent treatment is petty and manipulative, not to mention immature. What is she? 10 years old?
Had a few exes like that and I called them out on it. They never changed and I ended up breaking up with them.
Honestly, it's not only stupid but doesn't prove anything other than the person giving the silent treatment is petty and manipulative, not to mention immature. What is she? 10 years old?
Strat-Mangler said:
This pretty much...
But we are talking about women.
Wether I'm right or wrong I'm always the first to try to fix the issue
I'm kindof lucky in that regard, been with my girlfriend for almost 21 months now, and we don't give each other the silent treatment. When we're angry at each other, we let the other person know, and we talk it through. I'm working on my yelling problem, I can be very pigheaded, but I seldom get that way. I wish I could help you with your silent treatment predicament, I've had some pretty crazy girlfriends, but none of them gave me the silent treatment.
Um..... coming from someone with MULTIPLE EXES I have a hard time thinking you are giving "good" advice.
The good advice I was given long ago when dealing with arguments is that "You can either be RIGHT or you can be HAPPY, but rarely both." Few arguments are worth driving home a point. Women are complicated (which is part of what makes them fascinating). They play games and so what if they do.
To the OP, I get that you are just venting a bit with us. Give in and let it go. It doesn't hurt you in the long run especially of the argument was over something dumb (as most are). Your pride won't be hurt 15 minutes after things are better. Life is too short.....
So who're you with, your first crush? Come now. This is ridiculously unreasonable.
I wont let my S.O. play the silent treatment routine. If she's upset over something, then we're going to talk about it. If she won't speak to me because she feels she hasn't 'won', well then I don't really need to be with someone so immature now, do I? We're supposed to be adults. We should be able to talk about the things that concern us with open minds, and not throw little fits when we don't get our way. I don't see "That's how women are, they're supposed to play games" as a valid excuse. Either you're able to resolve issues maturely, or you aren't. Fortunately, my current GF is wonderful about things like this.
two fingers said:
Finding someone who's mature and on the same intellectual and emotional level did wonders for me.
Next to no arguements and none of the stupid games.
GF !?!?!?
wait till you get married. I pray for the silent treatment, it's the only way I can get any peace & quiet
wait till you get married. I pray for the silent treatment, it's the only way I can get any peace & quiet
My ex wife use to do this. Sometimes it would go on for upwards of like 2 weeks. IMO, it takes a special kind of sadist to be able to carry on that long... eventually I learned to actually enjoy it. Peace and quiet 
The silent treatment is just delaying the inevitable. Even if you outlast her you'll probably wish you hadn't.
All the silent treatment does is give both of you time to prepare and refine your cases - use the time wisely and come out swinging with your story straight and your resolve implacable.
Or you could cower like a whipped dog, which always works for me
All the silent treatment does is give both of you time to prepare and refine your cases - use the time wisely and come out swinging with your story straight and your resolve implacable.
Or you could cower like a whipped dog, which always works for me
My ex wife use to do this. Sometimes it would go on for upwards of like 2 weeks. IMO, it takes a special kind of sadist to be able to carry on that long... eventually I learned to actually enjoy it. Peace and quiet
Oh, so that's why you're "adjusted".
I was married to a strong woman once. So strong that she bullied me into believing a lot of stuff, like she wasn't cheating on me, stealing all the money, etc etc.
Never again. Now all my women are "normal" women.
Never again. Now all my women are "normal" women.
- Jan 27, 2010
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bolophonic said:
According to my girlfriend most of the women she knows are taught that you have to manipulate and control your man if you're going to get what you want out of a relationship. Makes sense given most of my past relationships. Luckily she's not really like that.
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Suggestions:
Mumble like you are saying something under your breath. That should get a nasty "What did you just say"
Give here whatever she asks for during the silent treatment.
Pick up the phone when there's no one on it, act like you are having a conversation, and in the middle of it say "I don't know, she's not talking to me right now", or "I think she went out, I don't hear her". "I'd ask her but she's apparently lost the power of speech at this point in time."
Leave the toilet seat up. That should get her talking.
Mumble like you are saying something under your breath. That should get a nasty "What did you just say"
Give here whatever she asks for during the silent treatment.
Pick up the phone when there's no one on it, act like you are having a conversation, and in the middle of it say "I don't know, she's not talking to me right now", or "I think she went out, I don't hear her". "I'd ask her but she's apparently lost the power of speech at this point in time."
Leave the toilet seat up. That should get her talking.
- Jan 27, 2010
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Bloodhammer said:
No, she's pretty direct actually. I mean, she is still a woman, but she doesn't pull any of this silent treatment crap. If she's mad she says why, etc.
