Thoughts On NBD Negativity

[marchone]

I look at every NBD I see. It’s rare I comment on one, so, if I don’t care for it, I turn the page.

Still, I enjoy seeing other people’s joy.

 

[Pet Sounds]

With todays world being so sensitive about everything, I don't know what's considered mean anymore.

Oh, come on. Of course you do. It's not brain surgery.

 

[Groove Doctor]

With todays world being so sensitive about everything, I don't know what's considered mean anymore.

Get over it. (joking).

And tell them to get over it.

Try not to let your narcissism ego have soft spots... Let it absorb some punches once in awhile.... Trust me the pain goes away quickly if you let it.

Exactly.

Being offended is a choice. Don't give away your power to trite little comments. Grow up, be an adult. Learn to be bigger than the situation you’re in.

 

[COYS]

Yeah it would be great for new players if others would share in their joy, but honestly, I wouldn't lose sleep over it. It's like posting a new song to YouTube. Literally nobody cares.

Pretty much my feelings. It’s a fun day for me when I get something new, but nobody else cares so I wouldn’t post anything.

 

[icefly]

NBD posts are a celebration.

Agreed

 

[playsthespace]

Get over it. (joking).

And tell them to get over it.


Exactly.

Being offended is a choice. Don't give away your power to trite little comments. Grow up, be an adult. Learn to be bigger than the situation you’re in.

What does the other person being offended have to do with you being a jerk? Of course getting bent out of shape over ever little thing is no way to go through life, but that wasn’t my really my point.

do you have any responsibility for your own behavior, or does it just depend on what other people’s reactions are?

 

[truand85]

What does the other person being offended have to do with you being a jerk? Of course getting bent out of shape over ever little thing is no way to go through life, but that wasn’t my really my point.

do you have any responsibility for your own behavior, or does it just depend on what other people’s reactions are?

But you're expecting these people to actually have a sense of responsibility in the first place. You getting offended is exactly what they're after.

 

[LBS-bass]

What does the other person being offended have to do with you being a jerk? Of course getting bent out of shape over ever little thing is no way to go through life, but that wasn’t my really my point.

do you have any responsibility for your own behavior, or does it just depend on what other people’s reactions are?

Well, this idea that people aren't supposed to feel anything is both popular and chilling. That's about all I'll say about this, though I do have a lot more insight on what it's like to shove your feelings aside (and what that costs) than some do.

 

[LBS-bass]

But you're expecting these people to actually have a sense of responsibility in the first place. You getting offended is exactly what they're after.

Who cares what they're after? Other people don't get to dictate whether I have a right to my own emotions or not.

 

[coy garcia]

Interesting how a thread on NBD negativity eventually gets negative comments. Human nature I guess...

 

[5StringBlues]

I wash myself with a rag on a stick

 

[Spidey2112]

I wash myself with a rag on a stick

Pics, or it...

... never mind.

 

[playsthespace]

Well, this idea that people aren't supposed to feel anything is both popular and chilling.

I fully agree with this. I was trying to say that blaming other people’s reactions doesn’t excuse you from being the bad guy in a situation.

 

[truand85]

Who cares what they're after? Other people don't get to dictate whether I have a right to my own emotions or not.

But they do dictate it if your reaction is what they're expecting.

 

[5StringBlues]

Nuclear bomb disposable?

 

[Lo-E]

Negative commenters are just jerkweasels.

Truth bomb.

…and I just learned an excellent new word! NWD!!!

 

[P. Aaron]

Recently, I regrettably took part in a short back and forth on a NBD thread. Continuing to argue in that thread felt like adding to the problem instead of addressing it, so I figured I’d continue my old-man-ranting-at-cloud diatribe here.


Obviously, not everyone agrees on everything, and that’s great! I don’t want TB to be a boring place where everyone agrees. I think the mods (and TBer’s themselves) do a pretty great job of keeping the conversations civil, and even though I feel like it used to be a little friendlier around here, I still think the community here is a better group than other ‘gear pages’ *ahem* …if you know what I mean… *winks*


Okay, that said, I’ll get to the point. Maybe I’m getting corny, but I love to see NDB posts. I’m a gear nerd who’s never been particularly wealthy, and I know how excited I get when I’m able to get my hands on something I’m really proud of, so maybe that’s it. Sometimes new gear comes easy, other times a new bass can represent months of saving, extra shifts, sacrificing other gear that you like, soul-sucking casino gigs, putting the water bill off for another month(not recommended) and even more perilous than any of those; long, carefully laid justification arguments to our significant others. Regardless of your income that’s all scalable, btw - whether you’re making sandwiches for a living and aspiring to a new-to-you Squire, or pouring over spreadsheets because you’re dying for a shiny new Custom Shop or Fedora or some other bass made from dinosaur bones and moon rocks that I’m too poor to have even heard of.


NBD posts are a celebration. There are plenty of threads to argue about specs, finishes, companies, etc. and that’s cool, but unless the OP asks and/or opens the door for that criticism, a NBD post is a good place to say something nice or move along. It’s a party, and maybe peeing in the punch bowl makes you feel awesome, but it’s at best low class behavior. I promise letting someone have a good day once in a while won’t kill you, even if you think what they are proud of is dumb. Maybe that person will be slightly less inclined to call your dumb tastes dumb in the future and we’ll all be better for it, idk.

New bass posts are cool. I am even more interested in long-term use of the instrument and player impressions over practices, rehearsals and gigs. That's the kind of info that's helpful to those trying to decide. Tho' often times, sheer looks of a bass makes you want it. So much humanism in wanting stuff whether we need that particular or not.

 

[Jeff K]

I didn't read this whole thread. But I'm a bit surprised. I can't remember seeing any blatant negativity in a NBD thread. In general bass threads, yeah; but I can't remember any rudeness in NBD threads.

I DO look at most NBD threads. And like most civilized people D), if I think a bass looks hideous, I keep that opinion to myself and just move on. I'm gonna' have to keep my eyes open to see if I've just been lost in space. But I'd never want to bum somebody out over something they're happy about. And it doesn't speak well of people who WOULD...

 

[logdrum]

I hate it when the financial advisers chime in. Veiled jealousy probably is the case and I doubt they are financially solvent like they say they are.

This is a gear site. Skills, talent, theory, ethics - yeah fine but that's not why I am here for, since I joined.

 

[bassGtar]

I hate it when the financial advisers chime in. Veiled jealousy probably is the case and I doubt they are financially solvent like they say they are.

This is a gear site. Skills, talent, theory, ethics - yeah fine but that's not why I am here for, since I joined.

For me, I think gear is overrated on TB, and I don’t understand the need to get positive feedback on a purchase. Until today I didn’t know what NBD meant. It’s not for me, but I wouldn’t rain on anybody’s parade and I wish everyone the best on their musical journey.

FWIW: “Financially solvent” is a pretty low bar. Try to maintain it or you’ll need a bankruptcy lawyer, and those guys have GAS, if ya know what I mean.