Thoughts On NBD Negativity

[60bass]

Being a member of the Old Geezer club, I always remember what my mother always told me. If you can't say something nice. Then it's best you say nothing. Am I guilty of NOT following her advice from time to time? Well yes I am. I'm only human after all.

 

[duanev3]

Being a member of the Old Geezer club, I always remember what my mother always told me. If you can't say something nice. Then it's best you say nothing. Am I guilty of NOT following her advice from time to time? Well yes I am. I'm only human after all.

My mom told me if you cant stand the heat get out of the kitchen.

 

[39-Bassist]

Uh it's spelled SQUIER btw....lol

 

[Gilmourisgod]

I made the mistake of pointing out the Qwik-N-Eazy Removable Headstock feature common to T-Birds... on the T-Bird Enthusiasts Thread. Needless to say, not well received. The fact that this well-known design flaw is a real thing didn't make my pointing it out any less unwelcome. After reading the 10,000th thread opining that all anybody needs is a P-Bass, for instance, I tend to pass over P-Bass NBD threads. Maybe the old saying applies, "If you can't think of anything nice to say......"

 

[60bass]

My mom told me if you cant stand the heat get out of the kitchen.

Yep I heard that one too from my mom and both my Grands.

 

[Herrick]

This is happening? I haven’t seen negative comments on NBD threads but I don’t dig that deep. I usually just click a like and read a few posts

I haven't noticed this either but I don't always read a whole NBD thread.

 

[duanev3]

Uh it's spelled SQUIER btw....lol

The E goes after the I???? hmmmm.

 

[39-Bassist]

The E goes after the I???? hmmmm.

Well actually if you play a 5 string the E comes after the B...sorry there is no I...lol

 

[RichardW]

A good filter is: would I say this to the person's face? If the answer is 'no,' then it shouldn't be said online.

 

[ThudThudThud]

Do I love every bass I see on NBD? No.
Do I like every bass I see on NBD? No.
Do I occasionally see something that I've never seen before? Yes.
Do I see colours, or combinations I never would have thought I'd like? Yes.
Do I occasionally see something that makes me envious? Yes.
Do I need to tell the OP that I think his choices are questionable? No.
I just open NBD posts because it's cool someone got something to be excited about.

 

[Space Pickle]

sad bass day

 

[Huw Phillips]

I don’t bother to post anything new or made by me as I was torn to shreds the first time I did so

 

[Corevalay]

It’s a party, and maybe peeing in the punch bowl makes you feel awesome, but it’s at best low class behavior. I promise letting someone have a good day once in a while won’t kill you, even if you think what they are proud of is dumb..

This behavior is unfortunately just a huge part of society nowadays. People just love being miserable, and making others miserable.

 

[KeithPas]

This behavior is unfortunately just a huge part of society nowadays. People just love being miserable, and making others miserable.

Sad but true. I don’t go to bass websites to be miserable but I’m old so maybe I’ve mellowed out a little

 

[duanev3]

Look at it this way....

Whether your NBD post gets praises, left handed compliments, or out right kicked in the gut.... It goes back TTT.... And at the end of the day isn't that what most of us want??? Relevancy in our newly found jewel? Try not to let your narcissism have soft spots... Let it absorb some punches once in awhile.... Trust me the pain goes away quickly if you let it.

 

[LBS-bass]

It's pretty much just uncool to rain on someone's parade. Not sure how some people justify it with "well, it's the internet, and you should expect that." I don't expect people to act like <redacted> and I don't see the purpose in excusing that. When someone's sharing something that makes them happy, how hard is it to be happy for them? If you're not in the mood to celebrate, just move along.

 

[duanev3]

I just don't see that here on a large scale..... Everyone is pretty damn cool here. And for the most part I see an attempt at the best intentions.

I've been in bands since the age of 12, and I can tell you that some of the arguments I've been involved or watched within the rehearsal or recording studio pale in comparison to what I read on here.

 

[truand85]

It's pretty much just uncool to rain on someone's parade. Not sure how some people justify it with "well, it's the internet, and you should expect that." I don't expect people to act like <redacted> and I don't see the purpose in excusing that. When someone's sharing something that makes them happy, how hard is it to be happy for them? If you're not in the mood to celebrate, just move along.

It's not justification, just reality. It's not excusing anything either. Attention seekers love to see moral outrage and arguments in the first place. Don't feed the trolls and they'll go away.

 

[Johnny StingRay]

I truly believe that a significant majority of NBD posters just want to share their joy of having a new bass with all of those who can appreciate their excitement.
There are probably a few NBD posters who are more into “bragging” about their new bass………..”Hey suckers, look what I got! Nananananah”…………BUT, I really believe that number is extremely small.
So, I love checking out the NBD posts and sharing in their happiness and excitement of having a new bass that will help them realize their musical goals……

 

[duanev3]

I truly believe that a significant majority of NBD posters just want to share their joy of having a new bass with all of those who can appreciate their excitement.
There are probably a few NBD posters who are more into “bragging” about their new bass………..”Hey suckers, look what I got! Nananananah”…………BUT, I really believe that number is extremely small.
So, I love checking out the NBD posts and sharing in their happiness and excitement of having a new bass that will help them realize their musical goals……

I think we are all bragging in some sorta way. But that's okay.... I think it's healthy....

Now being whiner.... that's a whole other deal..... My dad is a pretty quite dood, but I clearly remember telling us nobody likes a whiner / complainer.

 

[Barticus]

Recently, I regrettably took part in a short back and forth on a NBD thread. Continuing to argue in that thread felt like adding to the problem instead of addressing it, so I figured I’d continue my old-man-ranting-at-cloud diatribe here.


Obviously, not everyone agrees on everything, and that’s great! I don’t want TB to be a boring place where everyone agrees. I think the mods (and TBer’s themselves) do a pretty great job of keeping the conversations civil, and even though I feel like it used to be a little friendlier around here, I still think the community here is a better group than other ‘gear pages’ *ahem* …if you know what I mean… *winks*


Okay, that said, I’ll get to the point. Maybe I’m getting corny, but I love to see NDB posts. I’m a gear nerd who’s never been particularly wealthy, and I know how excited I get when I’m able to get my hands on something I’m really proud of, so maybe that’s it. Sometimes new gear comes easy, other times a new bass can represent months of saving, extra shifts, sacrificing other gear that you like, soul-sucking casino gigs, putting the water bill off for another month(not recommended) and even more perilous than any of those; long, carefully laid justification arguments to our significant others. Regardless of your income that’s all scalable, btw - whether you’re making sandwiches for a living and aspiring to a new-to-you Squire, or pouring over spreadsheets because you’re dying for a shiny new Custom Shop or Fedora or some other bass made from dinosaur bones and moon rocks that I’m too poor to have even heard of.


NBD posts are a celebration. There are plenty of threads to argue about specs, finishes, companies, etc. and that’s cool, but unless the OP asks and/or opens the door for that criticism, a NBD post is a good place to say something nice or move along. It’s a party, and maybe peeing in the punch bowl makes you feel awesome, but it’s at best low class behavior. I promise letting someone have a good day once in a while won’t kill you, even if you think what they are proud of is dumb. Maybe that person will be slightly less inclined to call your dumb tastes dumb in the future and we’ll all be better for it, idk.

This was a great post, thank you for saying it 'out loud' there are many that agree... including me.
Someone's NBD may not be my thing, as mine may not theirs but I don't feel the urge to critique. I also find it mildly amusing that some are oblivious to their own comments and contribute to your point... from the original thread and following to this one, oh well, sometimes self awareness is not always present.