I'm pretty thick skinned, let me have it.![]()
It doesn't exactly seem like it if the guitarist's comments are getting under your skin this much.
Look, there are 2 ways to handle this situation: 1) "He has no idea what he's talking about. I'm going to keep playing how I want to and screw everyone else." or 2) "Hey, maybe there's something to what he's saying and I should take a look at my playing style."
It's funny you posted this. I just auditioned for a fairly high profile national touring act and I didn't get the gig (though I'm told I'm next in line if the guy they went with doesn't work out... we'll see). Instead of just saying "thank you for the opportunity. See you later." I decided to reach out to the band leader and ask him if he could explain to me his reasoning for not hiring me. He said I was a little too busy of a player.
Of course I'm not going to completely change who I am on the bass and I'm not going to completely change my style. But it is worth going "perhaps that's something I can work on." And so now, I'm working on figuring out how to say the same things I want to say (on the bass) but using fewer words (or notes), if you will.
The common theme I see (at least on the first couple of pages that I read) is you taking a "why does it matter? we're just doing this for fun" approach. The guitar player could very well also be doing this just for fun, but might actually care about what the overall product sounds like. Especially since you're a self-proclaimed novice, why not try to improve and get better and sound better? Why not at least take a second to ask "might there actually be something I can learn from this?" or "can I use this situation to help me be a better bassist?" But, and I hope I'm wrong, your tone seems to be much more "Whatever, whatever, I'll do what I want!" Maybe the band isn't meant to be if the guitarist is taking it more seriously than you and wants the band to improve and you're just trying to hang out and noodle around when you can (which is also ok, even if it's a mindset I can't really wrap my head around).