Fair enough. The pedant in me wants to point out that you said what it should be rather than what it was for you, but I'm an anti-semantite ;-)
I am of the (minority?) opinion that churches are the one last safe haven where religious people can unapologetically lecture others about what they should and shouldn't do. I recognize I probably crossed the line by bringing that opinion to TalkBass. I'll apologize to anyone I may have offended and bow out of the conversation gracefully now.