How do you convince a club/bar to let you use your own sound guy? All they've ever let them do is "help", which amounts to little more than standing next to them telling them what to turn up/down..
This is likely due to the house person being unfamiliar or uncomfortable with your choice. You really can't expect a newb (freind of the band) to be able to just walk up to any club sound person and take over. Once the house people are comfortable with your sound person, then they will relinqish more if not all control to them.
We've still got to find a dude to do our sound, but i don't want to waste the time if it's impossible to get any club to let them actually run our sound..
Then I would look for someone that already knows the house people in your area, and is qualified . They will take care of it.
" Hi, im so and so, I am FOH for what-ya-ma-call-its" is usually all it takes. Then the house people become assistants to your sound person. If they see that he/she is a newb, then they are likely to take some if not all control back.
Also, what's a reasonable compromise in participation? At the least i'd like our guy to be able to control the FOH and monitor levels.
Depends on preceived experience level. Normally, if all is well, full control over your mix. Smart sound people will ask for assistance regarding the system anyways, thus making the house people comfortable with the person. If they don't know what they are doing, or do something really stupid, that will be obvious to the house sound people.
Beleive me, if they could, they would love the set off .
