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Weird one - Forbidden to use in-ear monitors....

In first place... a £25 set of earplugs called Isolate. The ones that are just a block of metal and a foam plug.

Tried the Isolate metal ones from Indigogo. What a clear hush on the world!
been curious about these!

i haven't bitten yet because at the moment every band i play in i can use my IEMs. otherwise there's no way i'm on stage near a drummer without something in my ears, usually some cotton stuffed in there to at least tame the damaging highs.
 
been curious about these!

i haven't bitten yet because at the moment every band i play in i can use my IEMs. otherwise there's no way i'm on stage near a drummer without something in my ears, usually some cotton stuffed in there to at least tame the damaging highs.

I dismissed them as nonsense for some time... and it was only when I saw someone I trusted using them that I decided to have a go. As far as earplugs go, I find them really good. They do block a *LOT* of sound, which can feel a bit weird until you get used to it... but I think they work very well onstage. They're not flat response, but they somehow allow plenty of treble and high mids so pitch recognition is great, and enough bass without the very low end, so it doesnt sound muddy.

Don't ditch your IEMs, obviously! :) But personally, I keep a pair of these near always. As I said earlier, even if you don't end up using them onstage, they are very good at reducing the snores of bandmates if you end up sharing a room with them :laugh:
 
Any updates on this OP?

I guess my heart is getting in the way...

The father/manager has developed some health issues and in spite of all of this, I respect the man. I don't want to make his life any more difficult that it is becoming. So I'm hanging around for the time being, at least with the gigs already on the books. Gonna try some ear plugs tomorrow night and see how things go. Or I may show up with my IEMs and explain to them, "yeah go ahead and make Dad's life harder under the circumstances". Hopefully, they are more concerned with his well-being than what's sticking in my ears. That goes for both situations.

But the handwriting is on the wall. I can't see being here much longer.
 
I was a member of a ukulele ensemble a few years ago. I joined when I first started playing uke four years ago after playing guitar for almost 50 years, so I came in as an intermediate player, but i considered the others advanced. Over the one year I was with them, at times I had to struggle to keep up, but most of the time I was keeping up, until one day when we were rehearsing for a gig and the one guy who very much considered himself the "pro" of the group called me out for not keeping up.

We had just learned the song and played it a few times at slow tempo, then suddenly he decided to go up tempo, so I stumbled. What really aggravated me was everyone one of the other seven members flubbed one way or another through rehearsal and he never said a word to them. I was already feeling insecure about my level of expertise, which was making it not so much fun, but that was all I needed to fianally decide to drop out. I'm actually a member of another group and I have to say, I'm much happier with them than the ensemble, especialy that jerk.
 
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I guess my heart is getting in the way...

The father/manager has developed some health issues and...I don't want to make his life any more difficult that it is becoming... But the handwriting is on the wall. I can't see being here much longer.

Much respect for wanting to do right by people, even when they're asking for something unreasonable.

To be sure, if your mind were already made up to quit the band (and if the IEM thing was only the latest problem in a string of red flags), then it might be the kindness you intend to *not* raise the problems and instead just look for a good time to give notice.

But if you'd want to keep working with the band if not for the anti-IEM catch, then in that same spirit of trying to do right by the people I enjoy working with, in your shoes I might see it as more of a kindness to address any unsustainable conditions that I know will sooner or later cause me to leave a band. Hearing damage would certainly fall into that category.
 
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I'm sorry Geri O, but it's time for you to take some responsibility here.

You were given an ultimatum. Your response was to basically do what you were told to do. Even now you're not taking a stand. You're undecided on what to do tonight. You might wear earplugs, you might wear the IEMs. Now you're trying to deflect the issue at hand by bringing in the manager's health and hoping the other band members will feel sorry for him and leave you alone.

Maybe you're just a non-confortational type. I'm not suggesting you have a character flaw or anything! It's just been my experience when someone slaps you - you either slap back or get used to being slapped.

Good luck!
 
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