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What Should I Do With My Life?

I know I would have done things way different if I went back-

I have mostly done things in my life except what I should have done-music. the things I have done have corroded a body too early-I have the time to do music but not all the dexterity I once had.

25 years ago, I could have relocated to Nashville or something; I know I was born to be a session/on call musician. my strengths seem to lend themselves in that direction.

if I devoted all of my time and energy to playing professionally, and had a fresh set of hands to do it-I would have been a top player.
everything in the rearview is crystal clear...
 
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I know this sounds like an extremely in-depth question to put on these forums but I really don't know who else to go to. I obviously love to play bass and just create art in general. But I have no idea what to do after high school. I would love to work in a recording studio, maybe even be a producer. I was looking into studying audio production and music but all art schools are extremely expensive. If I were to continue my schooling I'd only want to go to an art school. Even if I wanted to go to a regular college I don't have the grades to get into anything worth it. My questions for you are: Are there any affordable art schools? Are there better ways to study audio production than college? Should I skip schooling altogether? How does a bassist go pro? Are there any plans/ways that you know of that would get me successful through music? PLEASE SHARE!
All we are.....is dust in the wind Bro......Whoaa.......seriously, we are all responsible for our own happiness, but absolutely stay in school, stay home with Mom and Dad as long as you can, dont make any life altering decisions until you are at least 25, get a degree in ANYTHING!, doesnt matter, most places just want to see a degree of some sort. You will know the right thing to do when it presents itself.
 
Not sure what the requirements are for joining the military as a band member, but that might be an option.
There are a lot of educational benefits that go along with being in the military, both while you're in and after your term is served.
^This, if you can handle the dicsipline.

Carefully consider community college, city college for art education. In Denver, CO that's Metro State.
Many artists (not me) support themselves by teaching.
Like the person above said, Join a Band.
If you take care of the music it will return the care amply, but maybe not in money. In other ways.
^And this.

Look into radio, study some electronics, a lot of electircal knowledge goes a long way in a number of professions.

I'm 55, served 6 years as a Navy Nuke, have a degree in English, and a secondary teaching credential. I drive a semi to pay the bills. I came back to music after 35+ years away, I doubt I'll ever make any money in music [I'm okay with that]. I still don't really know what I want to do when I grow up. Sometimes life is like that. Regardless of all the twists and turns I've had a great life, wonderful wife, beautiful kids... above all else enjoy the ride.
Rondo
P.S. good luck, best wishes in what ever way your life takes you.
 
I know this sounds like an extremely in-depth question to put on these forums but I really don't know who else to go to. I obviously love to play bass and just create art in general. But I have no idea what to do after high school. I would love to work in a recording studio, maybe even be a producer. I was looking into studying audio production and music but all art schools are extremely expensive. If I were to continue my schooling I'd only want to go to an art school. Even if I wanted to go to a regular college I don't have the grades to get into anything worth it. My questions for you are: Are there any affordable art schools? Are there better ways to study audio production than college? Should I skip schooling altogether? How does a bassist go pro? Are there any plans/ways that you know of that would get me successful through music? PLEASE SHARE!

I don't know how to get success OP, since I'm not much further along than you are. College can be expensive, and very miserable if you don't have a plan. I wish I had waited a while to figure out more about the world and myself before going.
 
As a semi-pro bass player, husband and dad that struggled through years attempting to find what the plan B would be and continuously feeling frustrated and not realizing why the music career was evolving I can only tell you to follow your heart and gut. It sounds scary to say throw the plan B out but it is imho (and many others share it) the only way you'll truly be happy. There's gotta be food on your table and you need to take care of yourself. I have my second kid on the way and performing doesn't pay the bills fully (yet) but I have a job in the industry that I absolutely love and gives me all the flexibility in the world. I'm thankful for it beyond believe. You can attract the perfect situation if you only follow your gut and act according to your dreams. Education should never stop being a focus (whether formal or informal) and integrity will be your biggest tool.

Oh, read "the music lesson" by Victor Wooten
 
I'm so sorry..... But I just could not resist....


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Agree heartily that the OP should do this.



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"WHAT DO YOU WANT TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE!?"



Seriously, I'm 46. When I was coming out of high school, I didn't have much vision of my future. The best plan I had was going to the college where my dad taught (faculty brat discount), finishing a computer/journalism degree (I anticipated the online media world by most of a decade), and living in an apartment with a guitar and a good dog. Then I met a girl and accidentally got her pregnant, and all that went right down the tubes as I found myself married with a kid at age 20, working two minimum wage jobs and living on govt cheese to make ends meet. The need to provide, plus my family's military history, led me into the Navy nuclear world, running the reactors that power aircraft carriers. 20 years and a divorce later, I retired from the Navy with a new wife and a whole new life, thanks in great part to all the things I learned from hard experience. Now I work in a shipyard doing a job that I didn't even know existed when I left high school (radiation safety) making very good money. None of it was expected or planned, but I somehow managed to make it work anyway. I did end up with the (bass) guitar and dog though, so that's something. :)

The point is to the OP, you are young. Whatever plans you make, expect them to change and take you in as yet unknown directions. Expect change, and expect hardship. Learn from those things to grow yourself as a person. If you are poor, don't be satisfied with staying that way; the best way to avoid that these days is to develop technical skills, and if you want to do that in conjunction with music, I would say that something like electrical engineering or electronics would be a good way to go; if you can't afford college, you can get those skills through the military, plus money for college. Unless you are already talented (in which case you might find some music grants or scholarships for education) do not expect music to be your paying future; for every one touring professional you hear on the radio, there are literally thousands of musicians who never play a note heard by anyone but themselves. That's just the way it is, unfortunately, and best to face that reality early, before you end up sleeping on other people's sofas as a standard of living. Develop a solid foundation for yourself first, and build your music from there.

Regarding those who mentioned joining the military, I don't want to give a recruiting speech. But honestly, one term in the military (particularly Navy or Air Force) with your time used wisely can give you important life skills, technical skills, priceless experience, a degree paid for by Uncle Sam (using the GI bill and TA for college), and even a journeyman's cert in a trade if you're so inclined. Plus VA benefits, hiring preferences, and other intangibles that will follow you for the rest of your life. If you really have no direction or other good options in life, I'd be hard pressed not to recommend that as a foundation for your future.

Whatever happens and whatever you decide, though: DO NOT give up on your music. Even if you find yourself reduced to playing a Squier starting kit because it's all you can afford, stick with it. Simply being able to come home from whatever you do, put on some headphones and tune out the world with yourself, will get you through many dark times. As a disabled vet with problems, I speak from hard experience on that.

Hope that helps.
 
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Hey man Im not sure if you're seeing all of these but shoot me a message. I go to a liberal arts school in the south with a great music program and a great music industry program. I would suggest going to school and studying the music business and audio engineering so you can work studios. There is a state school in massachusetts called U MASS LOWEL that has a great studio engineering program. Never overlook state schools.
 
Here is my best advise: Be open to anything and always answer your phone. One call, one connection can drastically change your life. And it may have nothing to do with the specifics of that phone call, but what the result of that phone call might lead to. My day gig is overseeing the construction of sets for movies and TV shows. I literally fell into this from a phone call asking me to play bass in a theater production. Of course, there are a number years in between that phone call and where I am now. I worked hard and paid attention to everything. But I am quite happy with what I do now. And I can trace it back to a single phone call. If not for that call, I would not have met the people I met, and who opened doors for me. Life will never go where you ask it. All you can do is dance with it, and make the most of it.
 
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My story and advice thus far:

I'm 24 right now and graduated college (4-year Uni) a year ago. Didn't know what I wanted to do when I got there, hopped around a few times during my time and eventually graduated with a Communication Studies degree with an emphasis on Music Management. It wasn't until halfway through school that I realized the only thing I wanted to do was play music, one way or another. Almost dropped out but finished it out because of my parents financial help (God thank them) even though they have very little to spare. Now I'm living back at home trying to save up some money to make the move to a bigger city where music is more prevalent and there are more opportunities.

I have been fortunate to fall into a great community of bass players in my state that have a plethora of advice and knowledge from all walk of life. As I am coming to realize, as much as I don't want to admit it, it is damn hard and not very plausible to make a living playing music unless you are lucky enough to fall into a fairly big act that plays very consistently. I currently play in two bands: a country cover band that earns me decent money and an original rock band that I am chasing the dream of making it big with. However, since I did go to a university I am 40 grand in debt and have a few serious bills to pay. A few guys have mentioned earlier in this thread to never try to earn your living playing because it then becomes work and can wear down on your inspiration. I have found this fairly true thus far in my life. I'm happy that I got a degree because it has afforded me the opportunity to make decent money and take care of important things while still pursuing my passions.

If I could go back, though, I definitely would have done community college or tech school first. Take a bunch of classes that genuinely interest you and explore them. Those are the opportunities for you to really see if it is something you would enjoy doing as a career while still allowing you time to work on your music. Get those pesky generals out of the way. This option will save you a TON of money in the long run, and you might be able to pay it off as you go and keep you out of debt. Once you are deep in debt you become a slave.

The most important things that you need to do to become successful that I've come to find so far through experience are: Learn to be good with your money and don't waste it on petty things, budget and save for yourself. You don't ever want to not have spare money in case you need it, that is why I am living at home right now.. Organize your life and develop a schedule. Delegate certain times of each day to work on something, whether it be hitting the shed, studying music, working, exercising, etc. If you don't do this it is easy to drift off and procrastinate and not get things done.. Find a good balance between your practice schedule, work schedule and social life. Getting out to see shows, checking out new venues with friends and just exploring is key to making new connections and getting your name out and about. That is the best way to set yourself up to be approached for gigs and projects.

You're never gonna feel like you have it figured out. I still have no idea what I'm doing and have many older friends in the music business who have no idea what they are doing either. The best you can do is to explore your options, do something that makes you feel good and something that inspires you in the mean times while still pursuing your passion on the side and hope for the best. If you believe in it and want it hard enough it will come, just gotta have hope.
 
Forget plan B, plan B is the main reason that plan A doesn't workout.
I disagree, for op to be a full time student at a community college and get his core credits out of the way, that's 15 hours a week. The rest of the time is time to work on music, and if he's cut out to make it in the music biz, then he will because that's a hell of a lot of time each week to be working on it. taking a few courses at a community college on the side as a safety net is not a bad idea and it's exactly what I'm doing.
 
If he's going to school for what he ultimately wants to do, then I agree, otherwise I absolutely disagree.

I'm not saying you don't need information a mentor and a plan.

I'm saying most people have a Plan B because of fear and they don't believe in themselves enough to go for plan A.

+1.
Only one way to accomplish anything -- with a fully committed effort.

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Incidentally, I met Bukowski several times at Santa Anita racetrack. On one memorable occasion, I bragged to him
about a 40-1 shot I got across the wire first, only to see it DQ'd minutes later. Rather embarrassing.

Not to get off topic, but I would recommend the OP read Bukowski's writing as much as possible when not doing music.
I never met him, only read his writings and watched films of him reading, but am jealous of Jah Wobble Fan's story.
 
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Not to get off topic, but I would recommend the OP read Bukowski's writing as much as possible when not doing music.
I never met him, only read his writings and watched films of him reading, but am jealous of Jah Wobble Fan's story.

I too am a decades-long fan of Buk.

Here's a vintage film by director Taylor Hackford (also known as "Mr. Helen Mirren") from 1973 that shows the bard in his element.