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What the...? (girl content)

Dec 26, 2007
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OK, so I have these two chicks friends of mine. Chick A we'll call Carmen and girl B we'll call Michelle. I just picked two random names because the last time I tried something like this, people compared it to the unibomber manifesto.

So I met Carmen and Michelle way back in September. I thought they were both pretty hot, and I asked my friend who he thought was hotter. He picked Carmen. So, being a chauvinistic pig, I decided to get closer to Carmen, if only because she was prettier.

I became very good friends with both of them, and had a crush on both of them. I ended up really liking Carmen, and talked to Michelle at great lengths about her, and she ended up telling me about the guy she liked (but thought was gay)

Me and Carmen ended up sleeping together a few times, and I still really like her. Things ended up being put on hold after her ex tried to off himself, although we hooked up once after. Things are indefinitely on hold again. We're talking a lot still, but we're not doing anything. I can feel the tension building, and indeed, it feels like we're building up to something, but I dunno. She keeps telling her friends (who I'm also friends with) that she likes me, and she tells me this, but nothing still ever happens. So...:confused:
Carmen is one of two girls I've ever really liked ever. The other one I dated for several years. No, I'm not the type of guy who falls for every girl he meets either.

So now this Michelle girl. I don't know what her deal is. We talk every day via text, IM, phone calls, you name it. I joke that she's my backup wife.
When we walk somewhere she holds my hand, or puts her arm in mine as we walk.
We went out to eat recently and her boobs were hanging out, and she was kind enough to point it out to me several times.
I had a party recently and she ended up dragging me around to different areas by my hand. Later she tried getting me to change my facebook default to her kissing my cheek, and then said nevermind and told me to use one that featured the three of us. (Carmen, Michelle, and I)
Today she tells me that her boobs did infact look great on friday. Then she sends me a picture of herself in her underwear and a t-shirt asking me what I think of it. I told her she looked hot.

So I do kinda like this girl but here's my problem.

I'm pretty positive she's hitting on me... but whenever I suggest anything, usually jokingly, she usually says its weird because we're friends or that I'm like a brother to her or whatever.

Am I missing something here?

Its 4:40 am and no one on my buddy list is awake except for drug addicts and her so I turn to TB for sage wisdom.
 
The first girl I don't know what to say, never had anything like that happen. The second girl likes you but has some kind of questions about who you are or things you do. Could be that you talk about the first girl a lot, maybe she still thinks you're sleeping with her, maybe she suspects you're not but you want to be. Other than that, do you have any vices? Drinking, swearing, yelling, drugs?
 
I drink, swear, and do drugs recreationally (because I have fun doing it! ;)), but most of my friends are aware of that.

The second girl sees me smoke a lot at school and will occasionally join in, but she usually just smokes cigarettes.
 
I can't really offer you any sagely advice that is forum appropriate. So let me help you out with some tips from the masters. It will take about an hour of your time, but google "Keith and the Girl" and go to their website, click on "All Episodes" and download a show called "Errection Day". About 2/3 of the way through the show is all the advice you will ever need to sort out how to deal with these girls. Do it. You will thank me later.
 
This thread might be worthless without pictures, but a) I'm friends with the girl and b) I'm friends with a bunch of you fellows on facebook.

I haven't shut the link to the pic in my browser yet. I'm not on my computer and I'm scared to lose it. :p
 
you have an unusual problem my friend. I envy it. I reckon stay detached and keep supporting cam cause shes probs stressed...that or flat out tell her how you feel and try get some answers thru old fashion talking. Today bad today its always all about beating around the bush :(
 
Your current course has the stink of fear and insecurity all over it.
THAT is a one way ticket to failville

Appropriate response for the next time:

Are you hitting on me?
You're hitting on me aren't you?
Why are you hitting on me?
It's not nice to throw a starving dog a rubber bone.
How about you just cut the crap and get nekkid.


If she brings up the other girl, tell her if she's good enough you'll invite her to join in next time.
 
Are you hitting on me?
You're hitting on me aren't you?
Why are you hitting on me?
It's not nice to throw a starving dog a rubber bone.
How about you just cut the crap and get nekkid.


If she brings up the other girl, tell her if she's good enough you'll invite her to join in next time.

I like this because it smacks of confidence and implies indifference to a negative outcome/response.

It is full of win. Even if you fail you win because you had the stones to say what was really on your mind.
 

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