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I brought this up to my guitarist brother and he suggested that drummers and bassists hang out together because no one else will
figures!per the OP: it's venue dependent for me:
- some venues have green rooms: i use them!
- some venues don't have any green/dressing/band rooms: i'm with the audience, via the bartenders!
- some venues are perfect for mingling with audience/fans/supporters: i mingle!
i'm not the 'personality' in any of my bands, but i'm the oldest, and for some reason, that seems to attract some folks sometimes. i accommodate!
it's pretty easy to "thanks."
I usually try to find a group of young nurses from San Diego who are on a girls weekend in Vegas and want to get drunk and cheat on their husbands in the hot tub
The guitar players' wives.
Historically this doesn't end well, but old habits are hard to break. :::shrugs:::
Historically this doesn't end well, but old habits are hard to break. :::shrugs:::
Up until a few months ago, it was with the drummer - my eldest daughter, Cici. Now that I've quit the band, I still show up at her gigs - free drinks and I "still hang" out with her. 
During breaks I am chatting up family, friends, and especially anyone I know who made a special effort to come see us. I also end up talking with people who have questions about my instruments. I play bass, Mando and steel in this band so every gig there seems to be a few people who are curious about the Mando or steel.
Afterwards we pack up and the band convenes at the corner of the bar or in the parking lot for a few minutes. If any of our regulars are still there I will talk with them before I leave.
Afterwards we pack up and the band convenes at the corner of the bar or in the parking lot for a few minutes. If any of our regulars are still there I will talk with them before I leave.
I go across the street to the liquer store and buy a mint flavored It's-It.
I don't share it with anyone either.
Funny that there's always a liquer store across the street from the venues we play.
I don't share it with anyone either.
Funny that there's always a liquer store across the street from the venues we play.
It's awkward to go into full rocking mode to step off the stage into the crowd.
As a singer I seek attention but it is odd when it is given in person. I always walk around and say hi when i can.
One time these hot young girls were giving me the eyes and telling me how great I was - and as surely as I am typing I like the hot girls as much as the next guy but that direct attention really made me nervous LOL
I ended up telling them both good night and went over to have a beer with the bass player.
As a singer I seek attention but it is odd when it is given in person. I always walk around and say hi when i can.
One time these hot young girls were giving me the eyes and telling me how great I was - and as surely as I am typing I like the hot girls as much as the next guy but that direct attention really made me nervous LOL
I ended up telling them both good night and went over to have a beer with the bass player.
I sometimes sit with the other band members if there's a table like we had at last weeks gig.... sometimes I just hang out on my own with my phone and text my wife to tell her how the gig is going
I usually go out for a butt and the singer does the rounds in the bar. Typically, there are enough folks smoking outside that between the two of us, we hit pretty much everyone there.
A "thanks for coming out" goes a long way to building relationships. Our guitar player and drummer would prefer to not speak with anyone, so we got the job by default.
Fishheadjoe
A "thanks for coming out" goes a long way to building relationships. Our guitar player and drummer would prefer to not speak with anyone, so we got the job by default.
Fishheadjoe
I run the gamut.
This weekend I had back-to-back Fri/Sat gigs, and was fighting a nasty cold. Didn't want to infect anyone and was exhausted as soon as adrenaline wore down from being on stage. So I spent set breaks huddling in a corner trying to gather up the energy to play the next set. Everyone probably thought I was horribly anti-social or a snob or something.
Other gigs it varies. Obviously if someone I know personally comes, I hang out with them. If not, then if there are any "regulars" who come to see the band often, or anyone who was particularly interactive or enthusiastic during the set I'll go chat them up. But I feel really awkward acting like "I'm in the band, so obviously you want to talk to me" if there's no one that was clearly showing that vibe.
This weekend I had back-to-back Fri/Sat gigs, and was fighting a nasty cold. Didn't want to infect anyone and was exhausted as soon as adrenaline wore down from being on stage. So I spent set breaks huddling in a corner trying to gather up the energy to play the next set. Everyone probably thought I was horribly anti-social or a snob or something.
Other gigs it varies. Obviously if someone I know personally comes, I hang out with them. If not, then if there are any "regulars" who come to see the band often, or anyone who was particularly interactive or enthusiastic during the set I'll go chat them up. But I feel really awkward acting like "I'm in the band, so obviously you want to talk to me" if there's no one that was clearly showing that vibe.
We aren't in the types of circles where "green rooms" or band rooms are ever available.
Thought of this yesterday afternoon. We mingle with the crowd, generally head in different directions and thank people for coming out, meet some new folks, and say hi to people we know.
Been working hard to get my 2 bandmembers to take a few minutes when we finish to go around and mingle for a few minutes before teardown. My opinion, very important to put that few minutes into face to face networking. They're getting it and has been going well.
Thought of this yesterday afternoon. We mingle with the crowd, generally head in different directions and thank people for coming out, meet some new folks, and say hi to people we know.
Been working hard to get my 2 bandmembers to take a few minutes when we finish to go around and mingle for a few minutes before teardown. My opinion, very important to put that few minutes into face to face networking. They're getting it and has been going well.
Of course, those friends and/or my spouse who came to see us. If someone in the audience is paying extra attention to us, I might go up and strike up a conversation. Others include my band members or the proprietor.
