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WHOHOO!!! I'm sterile!!!

#21
dustklose said:
Theres an age limit on getting that done? I'm 19, and not interested currently, but I didn't know there would be an age limit.
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I doubt it's your age - I'm sure if you were 19 with 5 kids they've have you booked in for the next day.

However if you're young and don't have kids, you probably think you don't want any - of course you don't!! YOU'RE 19. If you did want kids at 19 I'd tell you, you were crazy.

But there's a reasonable chance that will change... Ever think about getting married? Chances are your future wife will want kids IN THE FUTURE.

We've just had our second kid, so a snip is seriously on the cards, but it's a pretty big step to say you family is finished.

Ian
 
#23
I shouldn't need to argue my case, but I am prepared to do so. I have many reasons why I am never having a kid. A few I can list here...

1. 30,000 kids die every day of starvation and treatable diseases.
2. Overpopulation.
3. I wont be ready to have a child until I can financially afford to give my child everything it needs and most of what it wants, which will be a very long time from now.
4. Sperm bank.
5. Adoption.
6. I feel I am more valuable to society if I spend the extra money I make helping out the people that need it rather than on a new child.
7. I feel I will reach more of my own personal goals if I am not worried about raising a child.

I do plan on getting married, but the fact is I am never having a child of my own seed. I will adopt if my mind does ever change. If something in my life ever changes my mind enough that I feel the need to carry on my own bloodline, I will have sperm in a sperm bank.

The bottom line is that until I can legally force a woman to have an abortion, I should have the option of having the only reliable form of birth control for males. You wouldn't believe how many condoms I've busted, or how many times I've had to front the cost of the Plan B pill. Female birth control is in their hands, but if she isn't careful then the baby is in both of ours. My current girlfriend is not yet on birth control (she just started it last month), so as of right now I cannot even have penetrative sex.

I'll end this with a quote of yours that said "It's a pretty big step to say your family is finished." to which I say it's a bigger step to take the chance of having a child you do not want when it could have been prevented.

(Also, my sister already has a couple rugrats, so my parents are a happy gumpy and grams already)

A childless life isn't for everyone, but it sure is the life for me!
 
#24
Todd Stanley -

I respect your position, even though I think you might be making a serious life-changing decision too early in your life. My sister has been plenty happy with no kids, as have a few other friends.

There are are some huge factors that you may (or may not) have overlooked...
- NOTHING is like the love for your own child.
- NOTHING is like the love from your own child.
- Rasing a child is THE most rewarding thing I've ever been a part of. It's hard work (damn hard sometimes), but iSO very worth it.

Despite my differing opinion about kids, I will credit you with being conscious of the seriousness of becoming a parent, and taking necessary measures to prevent that from happening when you know very well you're not ready. I've seen a lot of screwed up kids raised by parents who have little or no interest in being a parent.
 
#28
I had mine done after my third child was born. The doctor kept asking if I was sure because I was only 24 at the time. Glad I did it. Three is more than enough. If we want more, we can adopt some kids that really need someone. :)
 
#33
I had my procedure done a couple years ago. I had been wanting to do it for ages. I had it done on my lunch break, went right back to work afterward. I even had an "infertility party" soon after to celebrate.

Knowing I can't breed is one of the greatest feelings in the world.
 
#34
It's a responsible decision. Good for you! The world has too many people having too many children. It's not everyone's choice, but I can completely understand yours. I thought that I would never want kids, still don't know if I will ever want to, but I wouldn't make a decision like that this early in my life.

All I know is that I don't want kids until I've made a career for myself.

Plus... I'm not all that good with babies. Easily disgusted by the things that come out of their mouths and bums... and noses.
 
#35
AmyTheFreak said:
It's a responsible decision. Good for you! The world has too many people having too many children. It's not everyone's choice, but I can completely understand yours. I thought that I would never want kids, still don't know if I will ever want to, but I wouldn't make a decision like that this early in my life.

All I know is that I don't want kids until I've made a career for myself.

Plus... I'm not all that good with babies. Easily disgusted by the things that come out of their mouths and bums... and noses.
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hey you were a baby once... :atoz: Stuff STILL comes out of your mouth and bum....and nose. :hiding:
 
#36
While I find it VERY odd that it's been so long to have kept "active" baby batter going after the procedure (didn't the doctor find that odd?), glad to hear you're shootin blanks now, and congrats.

Welcome to the club. Man card in full effect. pffft to those chicken****s that think it's all the woman's responsibility. My Wife had my two kiddos, this is the least I could do.

And while there should not be an age limit on this, they usually try to counsel you as to whether you're truly sure you don't want to have kids, and sometimes find that to be a decision some younger folks take lightly and regret later...maybe that is why there was hesitation on your Doc's part, Todd?

Mon
 
#39
Mon Rominee said:
While I find it VERY odd that it's been so long to have kept "active" baby batter going after the procedure (didn't the doctor find that odd?), glad to hear you're shootin blanks now, and congrats.

Welcome to the club. Man card in full effect. pffft to those chicken****s that think it's all the woman's responsibility. My Wife had my two kiddos, this is the least I could do.

And while there should not be an age limit on this, they usually try to counsel you as to whether you're truly sure you don't want to have kids, and sometimes find that to be a decision some younger folks take lightly and regret later...maybe that is why there was hesitation on your Doc's part, Todd?

Mon
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I thought you could get a vascentomy undone...

I wont be having one of these for a long while. I can deal with birth control for now, and hopefully nothing terrible happens between me and my current GF, cause I think I want to marry her after college... in which case we will be having kids, probably around 4ish... then I can possibly part ways with mah-boys
 
#40
Sir Edward V said:
I thought you could get a vascentomy undone...
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Sure, you *could*, but it's not a high sucess rate, the operation is very tedious dependent on the method of the initial vasectomy (some doctors, like mine, remove a very long section of the vas, cauterize AND clamp both ends, as well as sew them into seperate membranes away from each end...has that made anyone's butt pucker yet? hahahaha) so you might not have enough tubing to reattach. Which is WHY, as I said before, they counsel you as to whether you'd have any changes in plans, because they try to make it a permanent procedure...ya dig?

If you're having any second thoughts, stop bellyaching and just wrap the thing, every time, and be smart about it.

And that's another thing...in another thread recently (I believe it was the "drummer boned MY girl" thread) someone intimated that kids were "dream killers" and no offense, that pissed me off. It takes two to "tango", and if you're not gonna be responsible, you deserve to reap what you sow.

Kids are not "dream killers", they make your life infinitely more rewarding, that is, if you're a mature person willing to take on the challenge. To that person who dropped that phrase, do you think your parents thought that of you?

Sorry to rant, but really, there are no "easy outs", and a vasectomy, as well as sexual relations at a young age, are nothing to take lightly.

Ron
 

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