Why do girls spill their guts to me?

Discussion in 'Off Topic [BG]' started by chicago_mike, Sep 10, 2010.

  1. chicago_mike


    Oct 9, 2007
    Chicago - LA - Rome - Dallas
    Endorsing Artist : Genz Benz
    Last I checked I dont have a neon sign on my face saying Im the proverbial shoulder to cry on...:rollno:

    How did this happen in the first place, and how do I stop it?

    Any other guys / gals around here the proverbial shoulder?

    Get your number here.:scowl:
  2. Do they think your attracted to the same sex they are?
  3. chicago_mike


    Oct 9, 2007
    Chicago - LA - Rome - Dallas
    Endorsing Artist : Genz Benz
    No,,thats not it...I dont think..
  4. BurningSkies

    BurningSkies CRAZY BALDHEAD Supporting Member

    Feb 20, 2005
    Syracuse NY
    Endorsing artist: Dingwall Guitars
    Ugly, therefore non-threatening?
  5. sloasdaylight

    sloasdaylight Inactive

    Feb 4, 2009
    Tampa, Florida, US
    Dunno, don't care.
  6. Women don't talk to me.
  7. MakiSupaStar

    MakiSupaStar The Lowdown Diggler

    Apr 12, 2006
    Huntington Beach, CA
    Because you present yourself as a friend when you actually listen to them.


    Jun 16, 2010
    You're the nice guy and they feel that you're their friend not just for sex... so they befriend you. Don't worry, they'll realise how awesome and there for them you are and they'll all fall in love with you one day. The movies don't make that bit up, y'know... ;)

    Good luck... and remember, only listen to Maki if you want to get in their pants. :bag:

    jks :D
  9. Stumbo

    Stumbo Guest

    Feb 11, 2008
    You can always take it to the next level and see what happens. :0
  10. My friend, I suggest you take a look at the definition of the Friend Zone on Encyclopedia Dramatica :D

    Edit: for reference it happens to me too haha
  11. drteeth


    Apr 1, 2008
    Leuven, Belgium
    Friend zoned. It happens to me way too often.
  12. Yup, friend zone. Next time one of them cries on your shoulder, try copping a feel.
  13. JacoLesFlea


    Jun 16, 2006

    So much said in such few words...this is exactally what it is. :hyper:
  14. jmattbassplaya

    jmattbassplaya Supporting Member

    Jan 13, 2008
    Nothing wrong with what has happened. In fact you can fix it. Be nice to the girls and remain a good guy, but don't always be there, and show interest in other girls, and ask advice on other girls from them. Butter these girls up by saying little sweet things towards to other girl you are supposedly 'pursuing' but don't over do it, and always, always walk away or hang up on one of these other 'friends' on your own time. You keep control and be a man in these conversations. After a week or so just cut these girls off, but if you see them in person say hi and act excited to see them, but way too busy to stop and talk. Give it a month or two and they'll be back and more often than not they'll be interested in you so take advantage of that. Of course this method takes some time but it keeps a lot of girls on the backburner and can actually give you some real girl friends if you want it to too.
  15. jp58


    Dec 9, 2009
    Because you have become their emotional tampon. Congrats.
  16. hover


    Oct 4, 2008
    All of the above. Reign that shoulder back a little.
  17. Nitzleplick


    Aug 25, 2010
    Portland, OR
    Women are attracted to what they cannot have, and they no longer want what they can have.

    To explain, 'bad boys' represent the gritty, testosterone filled man's man they are attracted to, these bad boys do not pay attention to their women and that makes them want them even more. Why is that?

    When a man doesn't pay attention to woman, woman subconsciously try to get the attention of the man. Once a man gets to the point of doting on a woman they cease being her lover and subconsciously she becomes turned off. Now marriage does work IF you inject love and romance into the relationship. Without that there are only two things that will keep a woman with a man. Money or Bad Boy mentality.

    This is why many woman cannot get away from abusive boyfriends, because they crave that negative attention, and if you think i'm just blowing hot air there are many studies you could google on woman and abusive relationships.

    You are her friend not her lover for two reasons:

    1. You are too caring towards her and not what you SHOULD be, a independant but romantic man's man.

    2. You went in to help her as a friend, that was probably your first thought too. That it would branch out into a real relationship, men all over the world get into the trap of wishing their friendship was something more. Thats why the phrase "Let's just be friends" is a Coffin Nail to a man's ears.

    You must treat her right, buy her flowers etc. never cheat but never get involved in small talk, and baby her as little as possible, this is what her girlfriends are for.
  18. It happens to me sometimes. I employ the "in-one-ear-out-the-other-non-committal-neutral-zone". Why? you never know what will happen when she stops being mad:

    GF: "My mom is being a *****"
    Me (the foolish, well-meaning boyfriend who really didn't want to be interrupted from his game of Age of Empires 3 and is nothing more than an innocent bystander in this case): "yeah, your mom can be a ***** sometimes..."
    GF: "You just called my mom a *****!?"

    :scowl: as you can see, some minefields are best left uncrossed...
  19. Infidelity


    Jan 14, 2010
    Melbourne, FL
  20. Rocker949


    Apr 20, 2005

    I don't know where you got your Ph.D. in Understanding Women from, but you definitely know your stuff.

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