band practise is time off away from the girlfriend
peace, solidarity and good old rock n roll!!!! hehehe
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Wives/Girlfriends at practice
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I prefer to keep rehearsals for the band. Its not social time for the S.O.'s, and its not party time for our friends, either. Nor is it a free show. Its supposed to be focused work.
I find that when there is an audience at practice, the little, nit-pickin' things that sometimes need done; the band discussions that need to be had...well, they don't happen.
I have a friend whose band practices every Friday, unless they have a gig, and they don't get many of those. They have an audience every time. They don't get to sit and break down problems with the music and fix them, which hurts them in the long run. They like me to come by and have a drink, and I do so about once a month, to please them. But I don't like to go all the time and become one of the "audience". Its their choice, but...I wouldn't do it, were it my band.
Cherie
I find that when there is an audience at practice, the little, nit-pickin' things that sometimes need done; the band discussions that need to be had...well, they don't happen.
I have a friend whose band practices every Friday, unless they have a gig, and they don't get many of those. They have an audience every time. They don't get to sit and break down problems with the music and fix them, which hurts them in the long run. They like me to come by and have a drink, and I do so about once a month, to please them. But I don't like to go all the time and become one of the "audience". Its their choice, but...I wouldn't do it, were it my band.
Cherie
We do that ridiculous detailed break down thing anyway even if there are others present. Hence why I think being a spectator at one of our rehearsals must be monumentally boring.
I made this thread because last night was the first time a girlfriend was coming to a practice. She ended up being cool about it and just texted/drew pictures the entire time and rarely lifted her head, but it still affected the over all tone of the practice.
And on top of this a few of the guitarists friends (like 5 of them) randomly showed up and stood around watching us for 15 minutes, which of course resulted in us just playing through a handful of songs so they could hear us and then leave.
We got a lot less done, and our next jam isn't for 2 weeks because of major scheduling conflicts. Argh.
And on top of this a few of the guitarists friends (like 5 of them) randomly showed up and stood around watching us for 15 minutes, which of course resulted in us just playing through a handful of songs so they could hear us and then leave.
We got a lot less done, and our next jam isn't for 2 weeks because of major scheduling conflicts. Argh.
We never have outside people at our practice, either significant others or friends. We practice in a local church and occasionally there are outsiders who are downstairs from us in the function hall area.
I don't even want to be at practice most of the time, i cannot see how a significant other would want to endure that kind of nitpicking, arguing, and monotonous tourture.
Sometimes we fight at practice, at least verbally, that is why we moved our practice space into a church. we figured that a church would be the only place where we would have enough respect not to fight.
I don't even want to be at practice most of the time, i cannot see how a significant other would want to endure that kind of nitpicking, arguing, and monotonous tourture.
Sometimes we fight at practice, at least verbally, that is why we moved our practice space into a church. we figured that a church would be the only place where we would have enough respect not to fight.
- Jul 30, 2006
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I can't understand why anyone would want to go to a band rehearsal if they're not involved. No civilians. It's the thing everyone figures out together after forming their very first band. Making music is hard work & your band probably needs more work & less distractions. The only reason anybody brings civilians in is to try to convince them that he's not wasting his time in the band or that he really can play......etc. BS
I think this is the key thats made it work for us. We don't mind people being there, but when its time to work its time to work. So far no one has had a problem with that.
I let my wife come once...why?...so she could see how incredibly boring it is when were roughing out new songs and ideas...plus were hard rock and play loud with no ear-plugs laying around....
that was a year and a half ago,and she has never ask to come out again.......I mean sure we have a few friends stop by every now and again....and yea,its distracting,but also keeps us on edge while playing.....It helps eliminate the insecurities before a big show.....I personally think it helps get rid of stage fright and nervousness....as long as were working consistantly while their there,then Im ok with it......I hate nothing more than a unproductive practice
I also hate fat girls with pretty faces
Exactly. Let the wife/girlfriend come, she'll get bored and won't want to come again. As far as friends stopping by no big deal at all. We just go about our business. I like playing in front of people practice or show. Many practices no one shows. My band has never been into that "band only at practice policy" and we always accomplish our set goals.
Of course I'm in a cover band. If it was an originals only band things could be different.
Nobody in my band has a girlfriend. 
But if we did, they wouldn't come to practice!!!!
We will sometimes ask people to come over just to get a feel for how things might go with a particular song when folks are listening to it, but then they stay quiet unless we ask them something or take a break. Our rehearsals are pretty relaxed because everybody's on board with the same mindset and everybody learns the songs before showing up.
But if we did, they wouldn't come to practice!!!!We will sometimes ask people to come over just to get a feel for how things might go with a particular song when folks are listening to it, but then they stay quiet unless we ask them something or take a break. Our rehearsals are pretty relaxed because everybody's on board with the same mindset and everybody learns the songs before showing up.
I don't mind girlfriends or others at practice so long as they're flies on the wall. One band practices at the guitarist's house. His girlfriend always brings us food and stuff - SUPER cool, and my girlfriend likes to go so she can watch TV there (we have no TV).
The other band rehearses in a bookstore. My girlfriend loves books, so she likes to go alot. There's always a bunch of significant others there, too, so they sort of go off to the side and do their own thing while we play on the other side of the store.
The other band rehearses in a bookstore. My girlfriend loves books, so she likes to go alot. There's always a bunch of significant others there, too, so they sort of go off to the side and do their own thing while we play on the other side of the store.
Yeah - that's the big problem. You end up playing a mini gig. It's sort of a double edged sword, though. If you don't need to nitpick things, it makes you more focused on sounding good and you can tighten things up more if there's an audience. However, I think that the compromise of not going over the nitpick things, and no band meetings/discussions hurts more then the "dress rehearsal" helps.
+1. I would think it would be boring as hell for civilians.Why the hell would they want to come to a practice?
I think my situation is the best: We practice at our guitarist's house where the entire downstairs is one big band room. The wives/GFs hang out upstairs and drink, talk, and (we like to imagine) explore their 'curiosity' together. When we break, we go upstairs and hang with the wimmenfolk, then back to work downstairs. The women resume their underwear pillow fights.
Practice is what you do to learn your instrument.........Rehearsal is the whole band learning the new material together.
I or anybody else in whatever band i've been in has never had a problem with a wife/girlfriend/friends sitting in and listening to Rehearsal of new material. Maybe I've been lucky for 30+ yrs. on that matter.
I or anybody else in whatever band i've been in has never had a problem with a wife/girlfriend/friends sitting in and listening to Rehearsal of new material. Maybe I've been lucky for 30+ yrs. on that matter.
bassman314
I seem to be a verb, an evolutionary process...
I'm in my church's worship band. We rehearse in the sanctuary. On the same night, my GF has her own rehearsal elsewhere in the church. She normally gets done before I do, and either comes over to get my keyes to go to my apartment until I'm done, or she sits and listens quietly.
Unfortunately, we rehearse on the busiest night of the church during the week, so distractions are normal. We have one paid sound guy in the church, and the rest of the folk who know about sound, A/V, etc. are all involved with the band, either in the band itself, or in support of the band. Someone comes into our rehearsal routinely to ask for assistance with some A/V or sound need. That's really the more annoying part rather than having friends or SO's who just want to hang out during rehearsal. The Sanctuary seats about 500 people. There's plenty of space for peopel to sit and listen to us without being a distraction.
If we had to rehearse in a small room? Yes. I'd have the same rule about visitors, SO's or not.
Unfortunately, we rehearse on the busiest night of the church during the week, so distractions are normal. We have one paid sound guy in the church, and the rest of the folk who know about sound, A/V, etc. are all involved with the band, either in the band itself, or in support of the band. Someone comes into our rehearsal routinely to ask for assistance with some A/V or sound need. That's really the more annoying part rather than having friends or SO's who just want to hang out during rehearsal. The Sanctuary seats about 500 people. There's plenty of space for peopel to sit and listen to us without being a distraction.
If we had to rehearse in a small room? Yes. I'd have the same rule about visitors, SO's or not.
My wife was always welcome at my previous band's practices.
She kept her nose out of band business and just messed with her laptop.
If we ever needed anything she would go out and get it.
She also made us stickers, banners, business cards, etc.
It all depends on the person I guess.
.....she also never asked for anything in return.
I love my wife!
She kept her nose out of band business and just messed with her laptop.
If we ever needed anything she would go out and get it.
She also made us stickers, banners, business cards, etc.
It all depends on the person I guess.
.....she also never asked for anything in return.
I love my wife!
