I would love to, but we don't currently have a drummer. If a drummer shows up before I talk to her, I will definitely invite her to see us.
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Would you give your number?
- Thread starter HollowBassman
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I would love to, but we don't currently have a drummer. If a drummer shows up before I talk to her, I will definitely invite her to see us.
No. Don't date people at work.
You haven't even gone on a date and there's uncomfortability going on. How's it going to be at work if you do date and things don't "work out" to either person's expectations.
When it's uncomfortable at work- what are you going to do? Get a new job?
A wise man once told me: "Don't mix your meat and greens." I'm not quite sure what that means, but I'm applying that to the same thing as "don't pee in the pool you swim in."
You haven't even gone on a date and there's uncomfortability going on. How's it going to be at work if you do date and things don't "work out" to either person's expectations.
When it's uncomfortable at work- what are you going to do? Get a new job?
A wise man once told me: "Don't mix your meat and greens." I'm not quite sure what that means, but I'm applying that to the same thing as "don't pee in the pool you swim in."
I'm going to politely disagree with the post above to a certain extent. As a general rule, subordinates shouldn't date a supervisor for obvious reasons, but I've never had a problem dating coworkers. In fact, I can only think of one couple that had issues at work as a result of their personal life...and they were trashy. Just my experience.
Mike
Mike
Sorry for not being clearer in my earlier posts, but we don't work together. I met her at her job.
I think I'll pass. If it turns out she does like me, I don't want to be tasting your butter at the end of the night.
I work in a fairly large facility. I've dated a bunch of chicks here- and some of them have been awesome.
I got asked out by a chick right after breaking up with a girlfriend. I didn't know it was a "date," I just thought it was a nice chick wanting to do a movie and some dinner. Afterward- it appears as if I had agreed to marriage. For someone I would see around every month or so- she was EVERYWHERE. She was calling my house, crying... she's stopping me in the hallway, making scenes... sending me dozens of emails daily...
It was seriously uncomfortable to be at work.
I'm no chick, and don't mean to be rude- but I think you kinda got blown off.
Sort of like the "let me think about it" answer.
Not rude at all. That's the first thing that went through my mind when she didn't immediately return with her number. But the seven people who were there with me seem convinced that she liked me.
I'm just having trouble understanding why she would ask one of my friends what my name was, then introduce herself and tell me that she thinks I'm attractive, if she didn't like me.
Anyway, if she doesn't like me, that's fine, she has a lot of good-looking coworkers.
I think I'll pass. If it turns out she does like me, I don't want to be tasting your butter at the end of the night.
Fair enough. Just trying to help a brother out.
She probably did like you when she SAW you. Then the two of you spoke, you didn't get her number, and she either found something not to like (and still thinks you're eye candy) or thought that YOU weren't interested when you didn't nag her for her number before your left.I'm just having trouble understanding why she would ask one of my friends what my name was, then introduce herself and tell me that she thinks I'm attractive, if she didn't like me.
You only have one chance at a first impression. Always make it a good one my man!
What you do next time you see her is totally ignore her and be cold if she chats to you...even flirt and hit on other chics where and when she can see it happening. If she's interested that should jog the competitive edge in her. It's all games man. . .learn the rules and you will do OK.
