I agree it would be a shame to give up totally on water base poly. It does need the right application method, but that's true of any finish. Like @JayGunn I apply it with a foam brush.
It does have some distinct advantages over oil based poly besides the lack of fumes, too - for one thing, it can be crystal clear, while oil based poly will always have a slight amber tint. On some projects, I used water-based poly because I want zero color in the finish. And the quick drying time is nice. I can be done finishing a project in a few days instead of a week or two.
I'm not sure you're correct on the durability, either. Yes, there may technically be differences in durability between water based and oil based poly, but I don't see that playing out in real life. I have a coffee table made from a live edge slab of maple, I built it probably 20 years ago. It's finished with water based poly - just normal Minwax stuff from the hardware store, not one of the fancy pro brands. It's seen plenty of spilled water, coffee, spilled alcohol of every type, sometimes left to soak over night (I was in college when I made it and I had rambunctious room mates), and with a bunch of kids growing up in this house, who have decided the living room coffee table is now their craft table, it's been covered in paint, glue, glitter, crayon, marker, pencil, and pen more times than I can count. I've been regularly scrubbing it clean with harsh chemicals for it's whole life (we live by Clorox wipes). If I showed you a photo of it, you'd think I'd just finished it yesterday, the finish is in perfect shape.
I'm not saying this to start an argument, because it's pretty clear you've made up your mind - and that's fine, we're all allowed to do that - but I do think you slightly misunderstood or misrepresented the product, which is too bad.