I was sharing some music with a co-worker of mine about a new red-dirt country project I have in the works. He googled my front guys name......hit #2 was homefact.com showing him as a registered sex offender. 
. He was charged with possession of child pornography in 1997. His sentence was 10years probation. I really don't know how to approach this situation, nor handle it. The ironic thing is he has a family and career......I think two tween girls at home. He seems like a family oriented kind of guy, reserved, well spoken.....he even pitched the idea of doing a faith based recording project at some point in the future. His previous band was an original+covers red dirt Texas country band that had a good following. I'm assuming anybody that googles his name will undoubtedly see what I have seen.
The kicker is it's taken us over a year to get started. We started rehearsing last year. But after several rehearsals, I backed out due to the my meh' feelings about the drummer. About 6 months after I left, front guy calls me and asks if I'd be interested in trying again if we were to get another drummer. I agree and start setting up drummers. About a week after we get auditions set up, he pulls tendons/ligaments in his right shoulder. He has surgery, therapy needs that put him out for 6 months. As of recently, (like two weeks ago) we finally started rehearsing again. He's a great songwriter, pretty good singer. This band has the potential to be pretty high crowd-draw band with the right decisions being made. I think he has a built in following from his past band, and from solo acoustic shows he's been doing for the last couple years (post last band break up).
I guess my conundrum is how do I approach him & what do I say.....or do I even approach him at all. I am not god, therefore I do want to judge him. Furthermore, I don't know the details of his arrest. However, I have a 3 y/o daughter and (almost) 2 y/o son at home. It creeps me out thinking that people could get off at the sexual exploitation of children. I don't want to surround myself with people like that. However, this happened almost 16 years ago. People change. Life changes. Forgive. Forget. It's the past for a reason. If I approach the topic, I can't take it back. I wonder off it's worth bringing up. Again, I don't know the circumstances of his conviction. I don't know his past. What the heck do I do??
. He was charged with possession of child pornography in 1997. His sentence was 10years probation. I really don't know how to approach this situation, nor handle it. The ironic thing is he has a family and career......I think two tween girls at home. He seems like a family oriented kind of guy, reserved, well spoken.....he even pitched the idea of doing a faith based recording project at some point in the future. His previous band was an original+covers red dirt Texas country band that had a good following. I'm assuming anybody that googles his name will undoubtedly see what I have seen. The kicker is it's taken us over a year to get started. We started rehearsing last year. But after several rehearsals, I backed out due to the my meh' feelings about the drummer. About 6 months after I left, front guy calls me and asks if I'd be interested in trying again if we were to get another drummer. I agree and start setting up drummers. About a week after we get auditions set up, he pulls tendons/ligaments in his right shoulder. He has surgery, therapy needs that put him out for 6 months. As of recently, (like two weeks ago) we finally started rehearsing again. He's a great songwriter, pretty good singer. This band has the potential to be pretty high crowd-draw band with the right decisions being made. I think he has a built in following from his past band, and from solo acoustic shows he's been doing for the last couple years (post last band break up).
I guess my conundrum is how do I approach him & what do I say.....or do I even approach him at all. I am not god, therefore I do want to judge him. Furthermore, I don't know the details of his arrest. However, I have a 3 y/o daughter and (almost) 2 y/o son at home. It creeps me out thinking that people could get off at the sexual exploitation of children. I don't want to surround myself with people like that. However, this happened almost 16 years ago. People change. Life changes. Forgive. Forget. It's the past for a reason. If I approach the topic, I can't take it back. I wonder off it's worth bringing up. Again, I don't know the circumstances of his conviction. I don't know his past. What the heck do I do??
