I agree with most of what you guys are saying except Morf.
yeah pretty standard
11 seems a good curfew but is it the same for school nights and weekends? seems a little weird to me
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17 year old curfew
- Thread starter Edwcdc
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yeah pretty standard
11 seems a good curfew but is it the same for school nights and weekends? seems a little weird to me
I'd say 12 because you can't do much in 1 hour, but it makes life a lot easier. Most states restrict underage driving to 12:00, almost all of my friends had to be home by 12. We did bad things, but the kicker is....you can do as many bad things at 9 and 10 that you can do at 12. Actually the main reason I say stretch it to 12 is the fact that you wont have to worry about him coming home late from work AND he can go see a movie without a problem.
Leave the default at 11:00 pm. In other words, with out asking, or any discussion, it's 11:00 pm. Now if there's reason for it to be otherwise on some occasion, let him ask, and talk about it.
I'm less concerned about my HS Seniors' punctuality than knowing where he is and who he's with. And he seems to know what his boundaries are. If he's going to be later than he said, he calls.
If he thinks it's too early, compromise to 11:30. No later than midnight. But know where he is and who he's with.
And no, that does not reflect my youth at all, thanks.
I'm less concerned about my HS Seniors' punctuality than knowing where he is and who he's with. And he seems to know what his boundaries are. If he's going to be later than he said, he calls.
If he thinks it's too early, compromise to 11:30. No later than midnight. But know where he is and who he's with.
And no, that does not reflect my youth at all, thanks.
Deep down you all know I'm right
heck yes, i never had a curfew
but i was a good boy, kinda like the opposite of thor. does that make me hel? (norse god of afterlife)Exactly
I think if you trust the kid enough and you know he'll make the right decision you have nothing to worry about. If you're that concerned about the kid, you'll find out soon enough if he comes home drunk or stoned or whatever anyway. Then you can tell him you put your trust in him n he screwed you over and you can ground him for 3 months
I think if you trust the kid enough and you know he'll make the right decision you have nothing to worry about. If you're that concerned about the kid, you'll find out soon enough if he comes home drunk or stoned or whatever anyway. Then you can tell him you put your trust in him n he screwed you over and you can ground him for 3 months
I don't think setting a curfew time is a good idea. When I was 16/17 I was away a lot of weekends seeing friends, bands, just taking trains places and camping on the moors. I spent the summer sleeping out on the beach, taking a trip up to Scotland and catching some of the Festival, doing all sorts of stuff. I grew up a huge amount because I didn't have my parents on my back all the time.
Bear in mind that at 17 your son is probably only a year away from college or work or whatever. I'm 19 and at uni and you can really tell the people who have the confidence to look after themself and can trust their own judgment from the people who can't cope without mum and dad because they've never had the freedom to try.
Bear in mind that at 17 your son is probably only a year away from college or work or whatever. I'm 19 and at uni and you can really tell the people who have the confidence to look after themself and can trust their own judgment from the people who can't cope without mum and dad because they've never had the freedom to try.
It is quite possible to teach a child to be independent and confident without giving them free reign. Even with a curfew, children still have to make choices between right and wrong.
I think I know my son pretty well and I don't think he has much of a problem with the 11 pm thing I just think he has friends that don't have curfews and he doesn't want to seem like a baby by having to be in at a certain time. I totally understand this and this is one reason I had to ask you guys.
I probably wouldn't have a problem with extending his time on weekends for special occasions but it would depend on who he is with.
It's a long story but I just don't trust this girl and I feel like the other night he found himself hanging out with some of her friends that were all older. This was the first time for him hanging out with them and I think he got dragged into the bowling thing and he couldn't ask her to take him home at that point. I can remember situations like that when I was younger so I understand.
BTW he has to be in at 9 on school nights.
I probably wouldn't have a problem with extending his time on weekends for special occasions but it would depend on who he is with.
It's a long story but I just don't trust this girl and I feel like the other night he found himself hanging out with some of her friends that were all older. This was the first time for him hanging out with them and I think he got dragged into the bowling thing and he couldn't ask her to take him home at that point. I can remember situations like that when I was younger so I understand.
BTW he has to be in at 9 on school nights.
In high school my parents were pretty lenient, but I didn't party and if I was out late they knew I was just at my drummer's house. I was usually home by like 12 on the weekends, even if they wanted me home earlier, I didn't drive a lot of the time so I called to check in periodically.
Wow.. nothing like threads like this to enlighten someone. I thought my curfew was early because kids in my area have such later ones. Then I read this thread and realize that my curfew is very late! Blows your minds a bit haha
Keep in mind I was 17 as a senior in high school, but at 17 my curfew was 11pm on weekdays and 12-1am on nights I didn't have school the next day. I am 18 now and when I am home from college I am generally supposed to be home at 2-2:30am.
Now that is me, which you may very well find to be late compared to your areas. Other kids in my area though? Some parents don't even care if the kid stays out all night which I think is just terrible. Other kids can stay out till 3-4am and later :scowl:
I am happy with my curfew and my mom knows I am responsible and a good kid.
Keep in mind I was 17 as a senior in high school, but at 17 my curfew was 11pm on weekdays and 12-1am on nights I didn't have school the next day. I am 18 now and when I am home from college I am generally supposed to be home at 2-2:30am.
Now that is me, which you may very well find to be late compared to your areas. Other kids in my area though? Some parents don't even care if the kid stays out all night which I think is just terrible. Other kids can stay out till 3-4am and later :scowl:
I am happy with my curfew and my mom knows I am responsible and a good kid.
When I was in college, I didn't have a specific curfew, but my mother did ask me to be respectful and not roll in too late. I went to college in New Orleans, so I guess she figured that anything I did at home was insignificant compared to what I was doing in school.
He:
Plays Guitar
Older girlfriend
Asking for later curfew
You:
For some reason don't completely trust this girl
I hope you guys are talking about condoms and birth control too, not just curfews. I remember how much trouble / fun an older girlfriend can be (it's fun, until she's in trouble) Being a teenage parent will screw up your chances of going to college just as bad as any booze or drugs ever could.
I remember being eighteen and just completely blowing off not only my curfew, but coming home at all I didn't even call home to let them know I wasn't coming home and I didn't even give it a second thought until the next day. My Dad was very worried, my older brother was out looking for me around town. The reason? I got the chance to spend the night in a motel room with my girlfriend. I forgot about everything in the world except for sex (and the fact that I was FINALLY going to get some)
Plays Guitar
Older girlfriend
Asking for later curfew
You:
For some reason don't completely trust this girl
I hope you guys are talking about condoms and birth control too, not just curfews. I remember how much trouble / fun an older girlfriend can be (it's fun, until she's in trouble) Being a teenage parent will screw up your chances of going to college just as bad as any booze or drugs ever could.
I remember being eighteen and just completely blowing off not only my curfew, but coming home at all I didn't even call home to let them know I wasn't coming home and I didn't even give it a second thought until the next day. My Dad was very worried, my older brother was out looking for me around town. The reason? I got the chance to spend the night in a motel room with my girlfriend. I forgot about everything in the world except for sex (and the fact that I was FINALLY going to get some)
Yeah I'm from the same area as sonic death (next town over in fact...go figure) and I'm generally not accounted for when I'm home from school, usually before 3:30ish though as long as I don't wake up my dad when he has work the next day. They mostly just don't want me drinking and driving/being driven home by a drunk.
I feel like to not know about birth control today is a dumb reason for anything. However, he should know that you guys aren't dumb, so mention it. It'll at least be an awesomely hilarious awkward conversation.
Or at least my parents made it one. THey're a little weird.
I feel like to not know about birth control today is a dumb reason for anything. However, he should know that you guys aren't dumb, so mention it. It'll at least be an awesomely hilarious awkward conversation.
Or at least my parents made it one. THey're a little weird.
Yeah, I get it now. There is peer pressure and he wants
to have a little freedom so he doesn't appear like he is 14.
Back in the dark ages the payphone was the thing, and some
guys did have to check in.
With cellphones, there is no excuse for him not to excuse
himself, call Mom or Dad, check in, get consent and
move on. Not calling when he got roped in was the sin.
If he had called and explained, would you have consented?
Or would you have driven over and picked him up?
Just curious?
take the kid out to stuff. spend time with him if you dont already, but think about it, if hes at the show with you hes not smoking dope, throwing back shots, knocking up some older chick
Man, cell phones sure have ruined the "I couldn't find a phone" excuse, haven't they? Maybe now it's "I couldn't get a signal" or "My battery died."
Maybe now it's "I couldn't get a signal" or "My battery died."
You showed us pictures of your workplace last week. You call what you do sales? What are you guys selling over there?
-Mike
The condom thing is well under wraps
thanks for asking. I don't like the girl and don't trust her because she has a boyfriend and seems to only want to be around my son when he has money. Her 20 year old "boyfriend" has threatened my son a few times which I'm not very happy about. I think if she didn't have the boyfriend I could be more accepting of her. I can only give the boy advice. I think it would be foolish to tell him who he can and can't see. They started to fizzle out but now I think it's back on.
