I haven't read every post in this thread, but I did read a lot of them. If the following has already been said by another poster (or more), my apologies.
One of the many difficulties with internet discussions is that opinions are quite often stated as facts, rather than opinions, and things then become heated. Having said that, I recognize that what I am about to write is my opinion, but it makes perfect sense to me. I've taught jazz theory and jazz piano at several universities, and have worked with many of the world's best jazz players, so my opinion is not without at least some background. Still... there will always be room for argument.
My father, a top-flight trombonist and arranger who wrote for the Glen Miller band (among others) back in the late 50s and early 60s, calls the chord in question a "b10" chord, and notates it that way in all of his big band charts (he's written hundreds). In his book, that nomenclature can be found in other noted arrangers' work from that period, also, while other arrangers chose to use "#9." He and I have had LENGTHY discussions on the subject over many decades, and my assertion that it's a #9 (I'll get to my reasoning soon, I promise) caused him enough consternation that he actually wrote a chart entitled "It's Really a Flat Ten!" in response, utilizing that chord frequently throughout.
OK... here's why it's NOT a b10, and IS a #9 (in my opinion...but if you think otherwise, you're wrong... hahahaaha...).
First commonly accepted rule to state - any chord with a number higher than 7 implies the inclusion of the seventh, and the included 7th is a b7 unless otherwise clearly notated. Alright, we got that out of the way.
Let's take C7b10 as an example. It's based upon a C dominant 7th chord, C, E, G, Bb. So far so good. What's the 10th of C? It's E. If we flat the E, there is no longer an E natural in the chord at all, but only an Eb. Now we have C, Eb, G, Bb, and that's it. That's a C minor 7th chord. The nomenclature is just wrong.
Now let's look at C7#9. Again, based upon a C dominant 7th chord, C, E, G, Bb. What's the 9th? It's a D. Raise it to D#. There is no longer a D natural in the chord, but there is still the regular major third, the E, so we still have the basic dominant 7th chord intact, with the added tension color of the raised 9th D#.
Chords with altered extensions almost always (and in my opinion, should ALWAYS) alter the odd numbered extensions only, leaving the the root, third, and fifth as either major, minor, diminished, or augmented triads. The even numbered extensions past the octave duplicate these important foundation tones, and therefore, if altered, change the base triad function. To expound a bit further, a C7#5 (better written as C+7, in my opinion, indicating the triad quality first and then the extension), is a C augmented triad with a flat 7, containing a G# and NOT a G at all, while a C7b13 would be a C dominant 7 base with an added Ab, retaining the unaltered G within the chord voicing.