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I live in NZ
I have been a fan of AJ for 30 years
I asked the question about "assisted living" genuinely and honestly.
I was never speculating.
It was a question. I don't live in the USA ...America's definition of assisted living may not be the real life manifestation of my cultural/societal expierence .
At no time time was offence or 'gossip' was intended on my part.
TBH quite disappointed I feel the need to explain myself in such depth.
You're absolutely right, and I see your question as just that... seeking clarification. Here, in my corner of The United States, "assisted living" takes several shapes, from "minimal-care-communal-facilities" to more "nurse-on-staff" places. Many of the corporate places are a mixture of "assisted" and "care". I play regularly at several local places and based on my own observations as well as conversations with various staff, (been playing some of these places for 9 years!), here is a loose breakdown:
"Assisted Living" is usually facility providing residents with a single or double bed, studio apartment with a kitchenette and bath. Residents usually prepare at least one meal a day in their room, with a light breakfast and dinner offered communally. They can certainly choose to prepare all of their meals, or however many they wish. Cleaning, laundry, and shopping services are available for a nominal fee as well as a la carte... Many residents drive or use public transportation. Staff do not enter the rooms uninvited, (which is currently under scrutiny at one facility I play), medication is not the responsibility of the facility. Most residents are vigorous, social, and ambulatory. Residents are free to come and go.
"Assisted, with Care"... this is most of what I see, which combines the above with folks needing a bit more care. The places I play that fall into this category seem to have a large wing of folks living as above, combined with folks needing a slightly elevated level of care. Those needing care are mostly mobile, pretty sharp and active. There is a small nursing staff of CNAs to help with care and usually a registered nurse to distribute medication to the "care" residents. There is often a physical therapy room with trained staff daily. Residents are free to come and go.
"Full/Memory Care" facilities, as explained to me, are generally for folks with higher physical needs, usually not as cognitive. These facilities are usually fully staffed with CNAs and one or more RNs or higher. Most entry doors are accessed using a numeric keypad, solely to keep the less cognizant residents from wandering off. One place I play actually has the door staffed. Residents are free to roam indoors and certain outdoor areas, but not to leave the facility on their own. My brothers and I will be placing my Dad into one of these facilities on Tuesday, as it's no longer possible to care for him at home.
Hope this non-definitive narrative helps a bit.
-robert
mark beem
Wait, how does this song start again??
Great to see AJ apparently happy, but that video did not give me a great overall feeling. YMMV
Anything positive about AJ's health and happiness is alright by me.
Anything positive about AJ's health and happiness is alright by me.
Yeah, I thought the video was a bit strange too.
Maybe strange, but if you caught his appearance at Berklee with Vic and Steve Bailey, that was scary compared to this. His speech was significantly delayed, he couldn't recall anything, his face would constantly go into this quizzical state. It was frightening to watch. Here, he's speaking complete sentences and is actually present in the video. I think he's clearly improved.
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Anthony is not the one I was talking about.
The video; Why is she talking to and about him like he is some incompetent baby?
Why does he allow it?
...or is it just me who got that impression?
Why does he allow it?
...or is it just me who got that impression?
Put it this way...if I'm old and feeling poorly and a woman still wants to talk to me and fuss over me and hug me and stuff, she can talk baby talk to me any time she wants
Put it this way...if I'm old and feeling poorly and a woman still wants to talk to me and fuss over me and hug me and stuff, she can talk baby talk to me any time she wants
Since I do not think AJ ever married, and I do not think he has that sort of family support, he is fortunate to have been such a great musician that people care about him and want to help him now that he he has suffered a major disability.
As a bit of an update, I heard he is back to playing again. Not sure if he's 100% back on the scene, but he is alive at least.
Apparently it was his birthday a couple of days ago? Al Di Meola posted this amazing picture:
I believe this picture was taken at Ron Carter's birthday party, in early May:
