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Anybody hate talking/listening to small talk all the time?

#21
uh huh
uh huh

yep ok, gotta go.

yah some partys are just boring.

or nobody talked about something that interested you.
but yah spacing out to music is pretty cool.
it is good to hang out though. maybe why I like music so much
being in a fun band and just talking about our own world so to speak.
 
#24
Shredder8 said:
Whenever I go to a party, I can't stay for very long. I want to leave within 10 minutes and just go home and listen to some music or play. I can't stand talking about traffic, people's commutes, cute things their kids did, etc. Such meaningless trivial crap that doesn't matter at all. I thought there might be something wrong with me but I read this on stumbleupon http://briankim.net/blog/2007/10/top-5-things-every-extrovert-should-know-about-introverts/

That part about hating small talk and needing to recharge is SO me. It's great to have an identity and know that I'm not a freak. Anybody else here an introvert?
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This is all very familiar to me. The same applies to colleagues. I like to work with them, but I don't wanna hear all this small talk over and over again. I prefer a conversation with total strangers over talking with people I know. Doing presentations and lectures for large groups is something I really like, but I like to keep some distance. I'm at my best late at night if everybody is sleeping already. Then I'm thinking, then I'm playing...
 
#26
I have a love/hate ralationship with people.....
I love certain aspects, but I hate forced small talk or ignorant/vain people
Sometimes I think im happier when im by myself or with animals,but eventually I miss having conversations with people.
Most talks with people are meanless in the grand scheme or humanity, but as mortals we live day to day
 
#30
Small talk is how I meet people. Is that strange or stupid? I haven't started many conversations with strangers that were really deep, or philosophical.

Does surface conversation about a shared interest considered small talk. For example, if you meet someone and find out they play bass, don't you ask the standard questions: what kind of bass do you play? What about your amp or effects? How long have you been playing? Are you in a band? What do you listen to? What do you write or what does your band sound like?

Those are all pretty trivial to me, but they are quick ways to screen someone. I do have my limits, though. If someone starts off a conversation about the weather it's time to hit the eject button.
 
#31
oh and sometimes it's simply fun. here's my small talk story from today:

this morning i went to collect my new-to-me-from-ebay T40 from the parcel depot in Mitcham. Mitcham is a pretty quiet place, from what i could see, and the parcel depot was probably the quietest place in Mitcham. on my way out - lugging a T40 in a pretty old-school hardcase, which was hungry work - i stopped at a van selling snacks of various kinds.

i put the bass case flat on the ground and ordered a bacon roll. the older fellow who was making my roll said, 'what's that?'

so i said, 'a bass guitar.'

he said, 'i used to have one of those back in, ooohh... 1966'

i got pretty excited and asked what kind it was.

he thought for a moment and said, 'a red one.'
 
#32
I consider myself an outgoing introvert. I love being around people, but it wears me down. I need quiet time to recharge myself and then am often looking to be around people again. People are often dumbfounded when I tell them I'm an introvert because I'm extremely social. I forced myself to be more outgoing in college and it has paid off, but it still wears me down.

I prefer small groups, meaningful conversations. I don't mind small talk, but what I mind is the same small talk in the men's room of the office day, after day, after day. Seriously, of all places to have the same conversation over and over, the men's room is not it.

Other than that, I like a little banter and move on. Nothing worse then small talk when you can tell neither party is interested, just that neither wants to be the rude one to break up the "conversation".
 
#33
Anybody hate talking/listening to small talk all the time?

I'd rather be alone with my alleged thoughts than endure the grate of someone's brain idling with their mouth in gear.

For me solitude is like strolling down the street on a nice evening whereas enduring circumstantially enforced social situations is akin to trudging through knee-deep snow.

As a life-long loner I've never had any interest in the things and shared activities which bind so many different folks together into like-minded social groups.

Not everyone is cut out to be a team player.

IMO accept & be the individual you really are and conduct yourself in a manner which earns the fitful night's sleep of a mind at ease.
 
#39
tplyons said:
I prefer small groups, meaningful conversations. I don't mind small talk, but what I mind is the same small talk in the men's room of the office day, after day, after day. Seriously, of all places to have the same conversation over and over, the men's room is not it.
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Same here, but for me the danger zone is my little group of offices. My colleagues are wonderful folks, but a couple of them drive me nuts with the repetitive small talk. I really get tired of being interrogated about lunch on such a regular basis.

I'm sure I would score as an introvert, because while I am fairly social and will hang for hours with friends, if an interaction isn't meaningful I get tired of it very quickly. My extremely extroverted wife is, of course, the opposite. She absolutely loves all interaction, and will strike up conversations anywhere.

Having kids, and lots of friends with kids, provided a good way to avoid all the small talk at some social gatherings. When I tired of the inevitable discussions with adults about kids/schools/jobs/houses, I'd just hang with the kids. They're often a lot more interesting! What would you rather discuss: the coolest bugs, or someone's new kitchen cabinets?
 

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