Bandmate angry about my choice in playing style

[billoetjen]

Keep slapping - makes me sound better.

 

[Steve]

Don't worry about how to handle it, you already have.
You've already told him, basically (no pun intended. sorry), that when you want his opinion, you'll give it to him.

He'll pick one of the three L's you've given him.

Like it (apparently not)
Lump it (that never lasts unless there's money involved)
Leave (that's my guess)

...and you'll be able to get on with your project.

 

[JimmyM]

After ripping on people for offering their opinion of wether you are slapping too much (and you are). This obviously becomes an issue about your interpersonal communication with bandmates.

Your question "how to handle this" has nothing to do with slapping or anything else bass/musical and all about either of your guys ability to communicate effectively or to compromise.

These are things you need to consult your shrink or psychology forum about. This is not bass related.

Generally speaking (as was mentioned before) its usually about somebody lacking the balls to share how they really feel and even worse someone with balls too small to accept what someone else saying (without but being butt hurt) regardless of being in agreement with them.

My only advice is:
1 don't be a p#ssy about sharing your opinions about something you feel strongly about. If he still has an issue let him walk... Hiding out about how you really feel is a disservice to everyone and in the long run becomes a cancer to any band/team/crew etc

2 quit slapping so ****ing much (don't kid yourself about everyone thinking it sounds good/better)

what do you care? it isn't your band. if the guy wants to slap, no reason he shouldn't. people worry too much about what other people do and don't worry enough about what they do.

 

[Ric5]

Bandmate angry about my choice in playing style


Why do Guitards think they have the right to tell the bass player how to play?

 

[SMILEYSIXX]

what do you care? it isn't your band. if the guy wants to slap, no reason he shouldn't. people worry too much about what other people do and don't worry enough about what they do.

I was just gonna ignore him, but thanks Jimmy

 

[Keef Green]

what do you care? it isn't your band. if the guy wants to slap, no reason he shouldn't. people worry too much about what other people do and don't worry enough about what they do.

I DONT CARE!!!!

You and the OP obviously missed the glaringly apparent (my) point

 

[SMILEYSIXX]

I DONT CARE!!!!

You and the OP obviously missed the glaringly apparent (my) point

If you "DONT CARE!!!!", then why are you dissing me and taking up space on this thread, and more importantly, once getting your point across, why are you still here?

 

[MysterMunky]

I've been watching this thread all day! It is hilarious! Keep it going!

 

[JimmyM]

I DONT CARE!!!!

You and the OP obviously missed the glaringly apparent (my) point

i suppose you've never ever had a problem with other people you work with. it hardly means he needs to see a shrink. it just means two people disagree.

 

[SMILEYSIXX]

The point of this was to ask how to handle a closeminded guitarist. I didn't expect to be burned at the stake for having a band disagreement.

 

[Turock]

The point of this was to ask how to handle a closeminded guitarist.

Sounds as if you may be more "closeminded" than he.

 

[WalterBush]

The point of this was to ask how to handle a closeminded guitarist. I didn't expect to be burned at the stake for having a band disagreement.

Apparently, your rhythm guitarist has been in contact with some of the members on this forum

 

[Munjibunga]

I asked for opinions on how to handle it, not your opinion about slap in general.

You get what you get here at TB. Anyway, the way you're going on and on about it says to me that you're looking for support for your position, and it's bugging you that not everyone is jumping on the wagon. You seem to have a tough time with people not agreeing with you. I'd like to hear the rhythm guitarist's views first-hand on this.

Personally, the place I hear the most slap is at GC when the 14-year-olds come in and do their typewriter imitations. I think it has its place occasionally in jazz, but it's not something you hear much elsewhere ... probably for a reason. If you're doing it in every song, it's just going to get boring and repetitive (I didn't say all the way through each song ... just in every song).

 

[cheezewiz]

You get what you get here at TB. Anyway, the way you're going on and on about it says to me that you're looking for support for your position, and it's bugging you that not everyone is jumping on the wagon. You seem to have a tough time with people not agreeing with you. I'd like to hear the rhythm guitarist's views first-hand on this.

Personally, the place I hear the most slap is at GC when the 14-year-olds come in and do their typewriter imitations. I think it has its place occasionally in jazz, but it's not something you hear much elsewhere ... probably for a reason. If you're doing it in every song, it's just going to get boring and repetitive (I didn't say all the way through each song ... just in every song).

Yeah, Yep....and, Indeed.

I walk into a venue. I see bassist slapping every song. I leave.

If I were playing rhythm guitar in a band, and the bassist insisted on slapping every song. I'd quit. Immediately.

I' m not completely anti slap. It has it's place, but it becomes boring, and wankery, faster than almost anything else you can do on a bass.

 

[Coop Soup]

Here's the rub. Sometimes people that disagree with your lines are right. I used to freaking hate that, but as I've gotten older I've done a lot better job of taking constructive criticism and can usually self criticize like a champ.

Serious suggestion for you if you guys aren't already doing this. Record all of your rehearsals. Try things several different ways and try to put bias aside and listen critically. You might find that you love what you're doing, but you might also find something else that you're missing.

 

[Depth_Charge]

Gradually it became our center of attention and the drummer and singer became key components and it became our main band. The rhythm, as I said, I relatively new and was originally there to sub for me on some stuff while I was out, but kept because our singer thought rhythm may be useful.

Was the rythm guitarist subbing for you ON BASS and if so, is there still an expectation he will continue subbing for you ON BASS in future, if required?

 

[cnltb]

The lead guitarist and I (really the only two who make the major band decisions) have decided that me playing slap bass sounds great and that is the style I'm writing most of my music with. The rhythm guitarist, after finding this out, basically threw a hissy fit, saying "playing only slap would be like me only playing triplets". What would be the appropriate way to handle this because the lead and I both really like slap bass and I, as the bassist (who should be the one making decisions about my own instrument) would prefer slapping because our band sounds good with it. How to handle this?

If it fits the music and you do it WELL, all should be good.
But employing only one technique for all you do may become boring not only to you but also to the audience.
Play what's appropriate and in good taste.
May be worth making some concessions to your rhythm guitarist too.
It's a "band" right?

 

[benmoore88]

pretty funny thread

 

[Starrchild]

Continue doing you. Slap her until the rooster crows.

 

[Febs]

Why do Guitards think they have the right to tell the bass player how to play?

Because it is a band. The whole of the music is more important than the individual parts. If everyone is concerned only about their own parts, and not about how the parts all fit together to form the whole, then the whole is going to be crap.