But I would definitely say there is condemnation going on round here.
I won't condemn you, but I WILL condemn tablature.
My background and yours are very similar. I did the classical piano bit for 6 years......got to where I hated the sound and even the thought of playing classical piano music (my teacher had multiple music degrees and supported herself fulltime with music. She taught the classical method, but she had "Pop" and "Jazz" "tracks" that the students could choose, as well as pure classical, which was geared towards making you a concert-level pianist. I was on the "Pop" track, by choice and due to my small hands: example, I choose "The Entertainer" as a recital piece but still had to work up some Rimsky-Korsakoff and of course more etudes and method books than I care to acknowledge.)
Went to guitar.
Absolutely REFUSED to apply any academic concepts. I didn't even really care to learn the notes I was playing, though I did give some passing thought. I was free to rock, to use my ear, to figure out how things worked. It was cool to play by ear!
But then I hit a brick wall. I found I couldn't retain more than 10 or 15 songs in memory at any one time. Every song I learned was a new experience. Of course, I started to see and use patterns. I took Doug Marks Metal Method, and learned scales and modes.
I learned the pentatonic box patterns, up and down the neck.
And after all of that, I still couldn't COMMAND my instrument. I found that I was relying on tabs and other people to "Show me". Worse, the areas that I did feel comfortable in wound up being riffs and cliche's - patterns. Not notes, but "put your finger here, 3rd fret 2nd string" - that's a lot of mental weight to carry around man!
How was this any different than my sight reading days, save for the fact that I wasted a lot of time and money trying to get over the hump and never succeeding?
Since I've started applying academic concepts to the instrument, the ease in learning tunes has gone WAY up. And I can now easily retain over 100 songs without needing to devote practime time (clarify: without needing to practice so that I can remember where to put my fingers on the neck).
Now I'm getting close to the point where I realize I'm hitting yet another plateau: I need authoritative guidance on physical technique and theory/harmony concepts in order to take my playing to the next level, where I'd really like it to be.