I like a kick in the midriff, and compressed, HPFs 2x10" don't do that. That's intended. FOH takes care of it.
If you've been near an (East European) DB section, arco fff, it thunders. The stage shakes. It's part of the bass awe to me so I won't abandon all sub frequencies. They're an important part of a bass sound.
I mostly play BG. Bigger spkrs/cabs can produce a deep inaudible impact and it's great if it's clean and controlled. It's inspiring on bigger stages and outside, I enjoyed feeling the vibration when those gigs occurred. My rule of thumb was to use double the wattage of the amp. My back disagrees.
The amp is less important to me. A bass with a flat output is an advantage IMO, pick or fingers. I realised optimising the sound source is more effective than correcting it later, and most of my endeavour has gone on that. Feeling some grunt is satisfying. That's the neanderthal in me.