This. Except I don't "unfriend" or block anyone. I can't be bothered. Just because "friend" is the label facebook uses to designate the people you've collected in your profile, doesn't make it so. The interwebs don't know everything, y'know.
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Clearing "Friends" From Facebook
- Thread starter electracoyote
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This. Except I don't "unfriend" or block anyone. I can't be bothered. Just because "friend" is the label facebook uses to designate the people you've collected in your profile, doesn't make it so. The interwebs don't know everything, y'know.
One of my mates has TWO Facebook accounts. One for networking, and one for close friends.
- First has lots of people (400+).
- Second account is for his actual friends (40 people) where he can be himself (bad language, etc).
- First has lots of people (400+).
- Second account is for his actual friends (40 people) where he can be himself (bad language, etc).
I have de-friended TONS of people. There are only a couple of people in my friend list who don't loosely fit the definition of "friend." I don't get terribly worked up about any of it. There are a couple of musicians that I intended to network with who have turned out to be political extremists and I have elected to hide them, rather than give them the satisfaction of "getting under my skin." Pretty much everyone else is someone that I have known at some point and they seem fairly interested in my relentless posting of baby pictures, so who am I to question it?
I'm so glad I decided to be "un hip" and just skip the whole FaceBook rage. I had a MySpace for a little while when that was hot and these issues popped up then. So when everyone dumped MySpace I took the opportunity to go back to real relationships.
(Never mind I was getting married and many of the women I encountered on the interwebs were scandalous whores. I would post something about wedding plans on my page and some tramp would post a public message about wanting to get all up in my junk 5 minutes later. The wife didn't care, but I found it to me very middle school.)
(Never mind I was getting married and many of the women I encountered on the interwebs were scandalous whores. I would post something about wedding plans on my page and some tramp would post a public message about wanting to get all up in my junk 5 minutes later. The wife didn't care, but I found it to me very middle school.)
Yeah, the more I think about it, a personal FB page might not be for me either.
I might put one up related to music endeavors only.
I might put one up related to music endeavors only.
I have 28 FB friends. It's mostly my family, real friends and current bandmates. I don't want any more. In fact they clutter my timeline with so much crap, I just don't allow their stuff on my timeline.
The south park Facebook episode may seem juvenile ,but it's eerily accurate.
Watch it as it enlightens the subject.
Watch it as it enlightens the subject.
This, pretty much. I have a band page for my slowly developing solo project, which I use as a low volume blog and to post links to Soundcloud. I'll friend anyone and everyone on that one. Seems like it's developing a bit of fandom in Thailand, of all places.
For my personal page it's probably 75% people I actually know, and the remainder are people I've met virtually and get along with. Facebook makes it pretty easy to filter what shows up in your news feed by 'unfollowing' people, and like minman points out, if you really don't want to have anything to do with a person you just block them and *poof*, they basically cease to exist.
I will never understand people who get upset over Facebook, what's in their news feed, and the crap their 'friends' post. Number one it's a 'free' service that no one is forced to use, and you have plenty of control over the content. If one is worried about privacy, blathering online isn't the brightest thing to do anywhere on the net anyway because it is there for all time. My $0.02.
Everything Trey Parker and Matt Stone do is juvenile yet eerily accurate. Its kind of their style.
How about this one:
I unfriended the lead singer in my band because all she posts is annoying crap about working out or how she's sick all the time, or other immature junk. I'm anticipating the moment she realizes this fact and contacts me pissed off.
I unfriended the lead singer in my band because all she posts is annoying crap about working out or how she's sick all the time, or other immature junk. I'm anticipating the moment she realizes this fact and contacts me pissed off.
I feel like I'm the only person on the planet without a Facebook page. I swear I've never been pressured more to do something than to join Facebook by EVERYBODY I knew. Worse than peer pressure in the 6th grade to try cigs.
Friendships, true friendships, are difficult enough to assess and maintain in the real world. All the interwebz does is distort the concept even further.
FB is definitely an "approach with caution" interactive device.
FB is definitely an "approach with caution" interactive device.
^^THIS^^ I started a FB account -reluctantly- just to see the remodeling pictures of a (real) friend's house. Within a month, I had half a dozen other "friends", but it was okay (I thought), 'cause they were people I actually knew. Wasn't really interested in the juice they drank for breakfast that morning, but...it was tolerable. Then, the floodgates opened, and hundreds of people started showing up, whose only qualification to "friend" me was 3 or 4 degrees of separation from the original handful of people. I mean, really; next door neighbor of a friend of a cousin of a friend's brother-in-law?
And - God help me - every time I clicked on to FB, there were more of them 
And I didn't know how to get rid of them. When I finally closed out my page, there were over 600 of these people wanting to "friend" me. No more Face Book for me, ever again :scowl:
I just by chance watched the South Park episode tonite...I guess that's because it was the only thing worth watching in about 300 channels..(***) dead on totally worth chasing down if you dig this subject.
What gets me is the people from high school who didn't even know you existed or the girl who wouldn't even give you the time of day send you friend requests. REALLY. You didn't bother to talk to me for four years. Now almost 30 years later, you want to be friends.
Ah, I'll let people hang on 'Awaiting Friendship' for a while. Especially folks from my past - I'm not on the best terms with that part of my life.
Same thing for clearing out people, when someone is getting annoying and you have no meaningful interaction with them - time to go. And No Coworkers.
Peace,
Greg
Same thing for clearing out people, when someone is getting annoying and you have no meaningful interaction with them - time to go. And No Coworkers.
Peace,
Greg
That's pretty much my philosophy on it. A lot of my friends are fans of the band. Although, I will say this. My drummer and I joined the project at the same time, and both of us are kind of astounded at how much the fans take an interest in our personal lives. I could post, "I had some green beans with lunch today" and it will get all of these likes (not that I post every mundane detail of my day in my status update, but just giving a hyperbolic example).
I rarely delete people off of FB because if they annoy me, I can just hide them in the feed. One exception was this woman I met through gigging in my previous band. She was in her 40s, and her posts read like middle school drama. She was always complaining about how so-and-so was talking behind someone's back or how people were putting down her teenage son. I finally got sick of reading it, so I deleted her. A few months later, she sent me another friend request, so I decided to accept. She still posted the same crap, so I deleted her a second time. Haven't heard from her since.
