Complaining About Bandmates

[catcauphonic]

Looks better on stage than sounds

 

[fourstr00]

Crappy harmony singer.
Crappy soloist.
Cuts to the chase during setup and tear down instead of staring at the pile of gear. Short with those that don’t.
Look like I’m doing my taxes for stage presence.

 

[G19Tony]

Really crappy player. But the chicks dig him.

 

[JRA]

i started to list them and then i realized i'd be here for days.

this might be a good distillation: he's too patient with some, but he's too gruff/critical with others.

 

[/\/\3phist0]

Not many I expect, except jealousy over the (Smoking Hot / TALENTED) Female lead vocal / front- person / BL / manager being unavailable because of me.
Too tall.
Too much control over the mix (I run FOH / monitors from the stage)
Women still fawning over me

 

[quindecima]

BL complaining about...….
Women calling the BL for my PH number
women crowding around the end of the stage where I am
Women throwing under clothes at me and hitting the BL
women giving the BL the finger after winking at me

 

[sqlb3rn]

I've never really heard a complaint about me exactly, but I have been falsey accused of trying to hack into the band's facebook page, and an old pill popping guitarist used to call me a fuk boy and little bit ch to make himself feel good.

 

[baileyboy]

What are some complaints you suspect band members have had about you?

No doubt, some of my compadres feel I am a bit of a stick-in-the-mud. I generally have low tolerance for random noodling, jamming in-between songs on riffs not on our set list, idle chatter, etc... I'm pretty much all business and don't like to waste time.

On the flip side, no one has ever accused me of being unprepared.

 

[Stewie]

Dances around to the point of making the rest of us look lazy, or asleep. Has a problem not jutting his jaw forward.

 

[neckdive]

Spends too much time on talkbass.

 

[Britsie]

Too many basses.
Too many amps.
Too many pedals. (I agree, even I think I have too many pedals)
Doesn't stay on the root note/Too many notes/Too busy.
Can't slap.
Won't do backing vocals (Trust me, I tried. It's better that I shut up)
Has an opinion on everything. (about the music and the band)

...and still I am in a band where people like me, like my playing and sometimes express their appreciation.
I am a happy bass player!

 

[EdwardofHuncote]

I can't complain about a single person I play music with, really. And that's a bunch of people. 2-1/2 regular gigs. I've been involved with my share of crazy ones, but right now is the very best of times.

 

[pbassnut]

I might have been considered to be temperamental at some of the sub gigs I've done over the years when I asked if they could give me BOTH the song title and the key before launching into something without warning.

 

[Passinwind]

Someone would have to actually let me into their band first!

 

[dbsfgyd1]

Let’s turn the table on the complaints about band members. What are some complaints you suspect band members have had about you?

Some Examples:

Complains Too Much
Smells Like a Camel
Ugly GF
Tardy Often
Drunk Often

I’m sure some of us are the 100% ideal bass player in all situations, and are justified is bashing our bandmates. This thread is for the rest of us losers. Enjoy.

I don’t use flat wound strings. And Zero stomach for mixing it up with bandmates. Some people thrive on conflict and or drama.

Frankly, I don’t put up with it. If it gets out of hand, I just laugh at them. Over the years I managed to avoid musical projects, or quit where this sort of thing happens more than once. It is true, there is no requirement that as a musician you need to to be a jerk.

 

[mike o]

1. Different (I take this as a compliment though)
2. He thinks he’s always right (no. Only 99.5% of the time)
3. Comes prepared. Will know his parts and probably mine too
4. Nibble (my nick name for too much ball breaking. It’s a NY thing I’m still working on)
5. He thinks I start all the songs too fast.

 

[Downunderwonder]

Wants to try his new mic.,which is already set up, instead of going direct..."difficult to work with".

 

[murph7489]

He's too loud, and expects us to bring him chicken nuggets to every gig..

guilty

 

[QORC]

I dare to express opinions on band matters and the music. Which doesn't sit well with the prima donnas. So I'm high maintenance

so be it. I'm not a robot. I'm not sheep. I am an equal member. if they can't deal with it, so be it

 

[juggahnaught]

Fun thread!

1. Tardy to rehearsal. Doesn't always happen, but it does occasionally. One former group would hold practices too early for me - I'd get there when I could, after work, but there wasn't much I could do about it even when I stated that I wouldn't make it until X time. Never late to gigs though.

2. Not feeling it. Depending on the music I'm playing and the overall pulse/feel/tightness, I'm either grooving and dancing with a smile on my face or I'm rigid and angry-looking. I think my old band picked up on this.

3. Impatient. I'm pretty cool about general stuff, but if the band's not coming together the way it should, I've been the one to say something or drop the band.

4.Too diplomatic. (This was actually said to me by a drummer I worked with.) Left my band citing creative differences, and it seemed that they wanted more actionable feedback (I can't really blame them). Unfortunately, I'd stopped feeling it and there wasn't a way forward without losing the band identity, and I didn't want to steamroll the group into my idea of things, so I didn't feel like I could give it to them.

I hope I don't smell like a camel.......man.....